Well how can we help u if we don't know what the problem is? It depends on how big the problem is. wish i could help answer it but don't know what you need an answer for.I need you advice on something please,big problem please?
Don't worry it will be okay girl, we can talk abou it later...
Good Luck
Friday, January 8, 2010
Invertor problem in my car...advice sought please.....?
I have a 400 Watt invertor in my car to run some equipment. Here is the link for it :-
www.maplin.co.uk/Module.aspx?
ModuleNo=227114
It is a 400W Black and decker invertor
Trouble is, if I turn off my car engine and restart the engine it goes into auto shutdown. The other problem I have is that if I use my laptop PSU with it, it also goes into shutdown.....have I just bought a bad invertor?...could anyone recommend a better more robust one ?
I am only using about 120 Watts in total so I have plenty to spare....it's driving me nuts....I have to sort it out today!!!
Thanks in advance guys
AndyInvertor problem in my car...advice sought please.....?
The trouble is that the voltage level in your car might routinely drop down to 10 volts or so while the engine is cranking. This is normal; it's caused by the high current load on the battery, but it will make your inverter shut down due to low voltage.
The fact is, there might not be a fix. The internal resistance of the battery means that when there's a very high-current load (like the starter) the voltage at the terminals will drop. Just about all inverters have a low-voltage safety shut-down. If you upgrade your battery to a model with a higher CCA rating, it won't drop the voltage as much when you're cranking; but it's hard to say if it will help enough to stop your problem. You should also make sure that your battery terminals are clean and tight, and upgrading the power/ground wiring between the engine block and the battery might help too.Invertor problem in my car...advice sought please.....?
The auto shutdown is to prevent you draining your battery. Are you using the cig lighter? Or is the inverter connected straight to the battery?
Try connecting it straight to the battery, turning off your ignition is maybe triggering the auto shutdown thru the cig lighter socket?
Just read on maplin site that you can only draw 100watts when using it thru the cig lighter socket
www.maplin.co.uk/Module.aspx?
ModuleNo=227114
It is a 400W Black and decker invertor
Trouble is, if I turn off my car engine and restart the engine it goes into auto shutdown. The other problem I have is that if I use my laptop PSU with it, it also goes into shutdown.....have I just bought a bad invertor?...could anyone recommend a better more robust one ?
I am only using about 120 Watts in total so I have plenty to spare....it's driving me nuts....I have to sort it out today!!!
Thanks in advance guys
AndyInvertor problem in my car...advice sought please.....?
The trouble is that the voltage level in your car might routinely drop down to 10 volts or so while the engine is cranking. This is normal; it's caused by the high current load on the battery, but it will make your inverter shut down due to low voltage.
The fact is, there might not be a fix. The internal resistance of the battery means that when there's a very high-current load (like the starter) the voltage at the terminals will drop. Just about all inverters have a low-voltage safety shut-down. If you upgrade your battery to a model with a higher CCA rating, it won't drop the voltage as much when you're cranking; but it's hard to say if it will help enough to stop your problem. You should also make sure that your battery terminals are clean and tight, and upgrading the power/ground wiring between the engine block and the battery might help too.Invertor problem in my car...advice sought please.....?
The auto shutdown is to prevent you draining your battery. Are you using the cig lighter? Or is the inverter connected straight to the battery?
Try connecting it straight to the battery, turning off your ignition is maybe triggering the auto shutdown thru the cig lighter socket?
Just read on maplin site that you can only draw 100watts when using it thru the cig lighter socket
Serious problem, please give me advice....please?
My friend has been in this relationship for 6 years now, and she isnt allowed to do anything. I dont talk to her ofter b/c she is always on lockdown by her b/f (who is like 12 yrs older). He has 2 kids (16 %26amp; 10). He doesnt want her to work, just stay home all day, she cant go out with her friends (ME). I have tried and pleaded with her to leave him but she really has NO where else to go. How can I get thru to her, how can I atleast get her out of the house? I worry and think about her all the time. Her b/f is crazy, he checks her phone and emails...doesnt let her do ANYTHING. How can you live like that? She is only 25, she needs to be with her friends. How can I help?Serious problem, please give me advice....please?
Unfortunately, there is nothing that you can do that will work. She has to be the one to realize that she can't or doesn't want to live like that.
Once she has gotten to that point (and mind you, some people take a long time to get there) and asks for your help, then (and only then) you can assist her in getting out and away from him.
Until that time, the best you can do is be there for her when she needs you.Serious problem, please give me advice....please?
by not letting go, keep on her time and time again...maybe give her some breathing room. but you need to pul her out at least for one night and really show her a good time and that there are better treating people out there! sometimes people need to be able to see the other side before their motivated to move to it!
This is the bed she made. Only she can change it, but not before she is ready
watch the movie ';saving silverman';, you will learn what to do from that movie
it sounds to me that she is afraid of this man but if she has no where else to go let her know that you got her back tell her that she is welcome to stay with you or one of your relatives or even with another friend until she is on her own two feet don't let her think that she is alone cause when ppl care about each other it's worth the fight oh if he threats her in any way she has the right to have the police involve don't let her stay there anonther day or night make it clear that she just might not make it out of the relationship without being hurt....
she's the only 1 who can pull herself out of that mess. i mean she might want to live like that. but you can bring her to ur house if she breaks up. good luck!
Unfortunately, there is nothing that you can do that will work. She has to be the one to realize that she can't or doesn't want to live like that.
Once she has gotten to that point (and mind you, some people take a long time to get there) and asks for your help, then (and only then) you can assist her in getting out and away from him.
Until that time, the best you can do is be there for her when she needs you.Serious problem, please give me advice....please?
by not letting go, keep on her time and time again...maybe give her some breathing room. but you need to pul her out at least for one night and really show her a good time and that there are better treating people out there! sometimes people need to be able to see the other side before their motivated to move to it!
This is the bed she made. Only she can change it, but not before she is ready
watch the movie ';saving silverman';, you will learn what to do from that movie
it sounds to me that she is afraid of this man but if she has no where else to go let her know that you got her back tell her that she is welcome to stay with you or one of your relatives or even with another friend until she is on her own two feet don't let her think that she is alone cause when ppl care about each other it's worth the fight oh if he threats her in any way she has the right to have the police involve don't let her stay there anonther day or night make it clear that she just might not make it out of the relationship without being hurt....
she's the only 1 who can pull herself out of that mess. i mean she might want to live like that. but you can bring her to ur house if she breaks up. good luck!
EMA Problem, someone give me advice?
k, I got the ema forms in like June from my school, and gave them to my dad, after filling in the bits i knew, after a while he told me that i wouldn't be able to receive ema because their income is more than the minimum required to get ema, so i forgot about.
About two weeks ago, i got the notice of entitlement saying i can receive 拢10 a week, but i didn't know this before, and at my school you have fill an attendance sheet from every lesson you go to to prove your attendance get your ema. but obviously i haven't done this and have missed out one about 7 weeks worth.
Moreover, im scared that the school ema person is going to get angry at me because i will just make everything more complicated.
what should i do and do you think there is anyway i can recieve any of the payments that i've already missed out on the past alf term in any way??
and is there anyone here in the same situation by any chance?? EMA Problem, someone give me advice?
all your payments should get backdated if you fill in all the forms dont worry about the ema woman at ur school she probably will be a bit annoyed but getting your money is the most important thing so fill out the forms and just explain that you didnt know you were entitled to the money. after all it is her job to sort your money out EMA Problem, someone give me advice?
they shouldn't get angry just get another form and send it off and you will get back dated for all the weeks that you have been in school trust me i did it xx
About two weeks ago, i got the notice of entitlement saying i can receive 拢10 a week, but i didn't know this before, and at my school you have fill an attendance sheet from every lesson you go to to prove your attendance get your ema. but obviously i haven't done this and have missed out one about 7 weeks worth.
Moreover, im scared that the school ema person is going to get angry at me because i will just make everything more complicated.
what should i do and do you think there is anyway i can recieve any of the payments that i've already missed out on the past alf term in any way??
and is there anyone here in the same situation by any chance?? EMA Problem, someone give me advice?
all your payments should get backdated if you fill in all the forms dont worry about the ema woman at ur school she probably will be a bit annoyed but getting your money is the most important thing so fill out the forms and just explain that you didnt know you were entitled to the money. after all it is her job to sort your money out EMA Problem, someone give me advice?
they shouldn't get angry just get another form and send it off and you will get back dated for all the weeks that you have been in school trust me i did it xx
Confusing problem with acne.. any advice?
first i'll say sorry for the length of this
i have been using Cetaphil Sensitive Skin Cleanser for a few months with great results, and in the mornings i put on Cetaphil Sensitive Skin Moisturizing Lotion. unfortunately one day i ran out of my Cetaphil, causing me to breakout, and the only other facewash i had was Biore Warming Cleanser. i used that for about three weeks with no improvement, and i didn't have time to buy any more Cetaphil. finally about a week ago i bought some more Cetaphil, but it has seemed to stop working and there is no improvement in my acne, my breakouts are only getting more severe.
now the weird thing for me is that for the past two weeks it's been Spring Break where i live, so i have had no school for two weeks. therefore, i have not worn any foundation, concealer, blush, anything for two weeks straight, but my skin seemed to be better when i was wearing make up than it does now, without the make up!
i exercise regularly, i have been going to the gym for about a year so i know i'm not lacking exercise. i am not overweight, but i follow a good diet plan given to me by my doctor about 6 months ago (fruits, veggies, fish, meats, whole wheats, etc.) so i am in good health.
why is my skin breaking out out so much, if i wash my face twice a day, eat healthy, exercise, and wear no make up? the only thing i have been doing different is i have stopped moisturizing my face (i stopped about three weeks ago), because i was told if i use moisturizing lotions on your face it will only worsen my acne. i'm scared to moisturize again, since my face is breaking out so badly that i don't want anything to make it worse. will moisturizing it help, or make it worse?
does anyone have any advice on what i can do to get rid of my acne and go back to how my skin used to be? also, i have seen a clinic and they were the ones who told me to use Cetaphil, so saying ';go see your doctor'; would be no help to me at all. please don't answer by telling me to talk to my doctor, and if that's all you can think of then please don't bother answering at all (i'm not trying to sound rude!). thank you for reading this, sorry if it wasted your time but thanks for the advice from those who give it !Confusing problem with acne.. any advice?
Avoid using all cosmetics.Wash frequently with plane cold water.You can use cetaphil once or twice a day.Use adapalene at night.Confusing problem with acne.. any advice?
MOst acne treatments say that your acne will get worse before it gets better. Usually it takes 1-2 weeks ofr it to kick in and your skin to adjust. Things may flare up but I would wait while before you panic. If it is still bad after a month, try ProActiv, I know many people who love it. My boyfriend uses the Clearasil Ultra scrub, lotion, ceansing pads, and quickstart treatment and it works great too!
WARNING! Don't Even Think About Buying Another Acne Product Until You Read This...
Acne Free In 3 Days.
http://rubyurl.com/SLW6
Look into DHC Skincare. It's available online %26amp; mail order.
I once received samples and although using olive oil seems contradictory, I never have healthier skin than when I use their olive oil moisturizer. Great mild cleansing 'soaps' and other facial skincare.
I also very much like Dr. Weil for Origins Plantidote mushroom skincare line which is a face serum and a liquid supplement you take by mouth that is vitamin c and good things for your skin. Again, great results when using both together. And Bare Escentuals Mineral foundation make-up is the best ever for coverage without clogging pores.acne
i have been using Cetaphil Sensitive Skin Cleanser for a few months with great results, and in the mornings i put on Cetaphil Sensitive Skin Moisturizing Lotion. unfortunately one day i ran out of my Cetaphil, causing me to breakout, and the only other facewash i had was Biore Warming Cleanser. i used that for about three weeks with no improvement, and i didn't have time to buy any more Cetaphil. finally about a week ago i bought some more Cetaphil, but it has seemed to stop working and there is no improvement in my acne, my breakouts are only getting more severe.
now the weird thing for me is that for the past two weeks it's been Spring Break where i live, so i have had no school for two weeks. therefore, i have not worn any foundation, concealer, blush, anything for two weeks straight, but my skin seemed to be better when i was wearing make up than it does now, without the make up!
i exercise regularly, i have been going to the gym for about a year so i know i'm not lacking exercise. i am not overweight, but i follow a good diet plan given to me by my doctor about 6 months ago (fruits, veggies, fish, meats, whole wheats, etc.) so i am in good health.
why is my skin breaking out out so much, if i wash my face twice a day, eat healthy, exercise, and wear no make up? the only thing i have been doing different is i have stopped moisturizing my face (i stopped about three weeks ago), because i was told if i use moisturizing lotions on your face it will only worsen my acne. i'm scared to moisturize again, since my face is breaking out so badly that i don't want anything to make it worse. will moisturizing it help, or make it worse?
does anyone have any advice on what i can do to get rid of my acne and go back to how my skin used to be? also, i have seen a clinic and they were the ones who told me to use Cetaphil, so saying ';go see your doctor'; would be no help to me at all. please don't answer by telling me to talk to my doctor, and if that's all you can think of then please don't bother answering at all (i'm not trying to sound rude!). thank you for reading this, sorry if it wasted your time but thanks for the advice from those who give it !Confusing problem with acne.. any advice?
Avoid using all cosmetics.Wash frequently with plane cold water.You can use cetaphil once or twice a day.Use adapalene at night.Confusing problem with acne.. any advice?
MOst acne treatments say that your acne will get worse before it gets better. Usually it takes 1-2 weeks ofr it to kick in and your skin to adjust. Things may flare up but I would wait while before you panic. If it is still bad after a month, try ProActiv, I know many people who love it. My boyfriend uses the Clearasil Ultra scrub, lotion, ceansing pads, and quickstart treatment and it works great too!
WARNING! Don't Even Think About Buying Another Acne Product Until You Read This...
Acne Free In 3 Days.
http://rubyurl.com/SLW6
Look into DHC Skincare. It's available online %26amp; mail order.
I once received samples and although using olive oil seems contradictory, I never have healthier skin than when I use their olive oil moisturizer. Great mild cleansing 'soaps' and other facial skincare.
I also very much like Dr. Weil for Origins Plantidote mushroom skincare line which is a face serum and a liquid supplement you take by mouth that is vitamin c and good things for your skin. Again, great results when using both together. And Bare Escentuals Mineral foundation make-up is the best ever for coverage without clogging pores.
Chihuahua problem, please give some advice-thanks!?
I've had my chihuahua for about 7 months and I have been able to break most of his bad habits and he has come a long way but one bad habit he wants to hold on to. He always every time we let him out to go potty, he insists on just staring at me and staying out there for 2 or 3 hours, refusing to come in when I call him. He actually begs and barks to come in, I go to the door to let hm in and he always runs. I realize he wants to play and thinks its a game. The problem is right now it's winter and he is going to freeze his A** OFF. I wouldn't mind it in the summer he will come in when he is good and ready but seriously it's been below 0 or just absolutely freezing you can see him shivering and still want to play a game. I'm so confused. Now I can't exactly go out there and play with him cuz I have a 19 month old and I'm a stay at home mommy. Nobody else can watch her and I am not going to get her bundled 2 or 3 times an hour to go out in the freezing weather. He has to go potty very often cuz if not he pee's in the house. So I let him out like every 20 to 30 mins unless I forget. I just don't want to go through this every time he has to go potty cuz it's frustrating on me, I get so worried when it's that cold and he is out for 3 hrs (no joke). Some people have said well dogs don't wont commit suicide so when he feels he is that cold he will eventually come in. I hope that is true cuz then I would just leave it alone but one problem with that is if we need to leave the house to go to work he will make us late for work. Any suggestions?Chihuahua problem, please give some advice-thanks!?
Don't let him out without tethering him to something near the door so that you can reel him in if he's being recalcitrant. There are 30' long longe lines (usually used for horses) that you can buy for this purpose (the line will also come in handy when you're teaching your dog to heel in the spring). Call him one time. If he doesn't come, reel him in. Give him praise and a treat when he comes, regardless of whether he did it under his own steam or you had to reel him in.
If you could, it would be better to take him out instead of letting him out so that you can give him cues about what he's supposed to do out there. You could, for example, give him a phrase like ';go potty'; or ';hurry up'; as soon as he squats to do his business, then say ';good potty'; or ';good hurry up'; when he's done. Praise him for going. That way he'll know he's done something you approve of. If you don't take him out, how is he supposed to learn that outside is the place to go potty? You could also teach him to go only in one area of the yard, so you won't have to clean the entire yard every day or every other day. And if he's in the habit of going in a certain area, then when spring comes and you can take your daughter out to play with you in the yard, you won't have to worry about her stepping in one of your dog's ';presents.';
Good luck!
ApacapacasChihuahua problem, please give some advice-thanks!?
instead of just letting your dog out why dont you walk him or take him out on a leash until he does his business?
my 7 month old chihuahua does the same thing sept i live in Texas so it don't get to cold.we just leave her outside if she scratches at the door we open it and if she runs away we close it when she is ready she will come in when we open the door im sure it will be the same for you when he gets cold enough he will come inside just make sure you have a jacket on him and maybe shoes or go out and get him
First of all a little dog like that should only be out about 5 to 10 minutes at the most. You should put a harness and leash on him and take him out...give him a few minutes to go and then take him back in. If he doesn't go then place him in the crate and try again in 45 min to an hour, keeep doing this until he gets the idea that he is suppose to potty and come back in. It will take 5 minutes each time so put your 19 month old in a safe place (secured in high chair, in her crib etc. and deal with it) if you don't have 5 minutes to deal with the dog you don't need the dog.
I have the same problem w/ my chi Buzz.. he likes to go out. And when I dont tye him up he runs around and chases cats and plays w/ our neighbors dogs that are always running around the neighborhood. I dont want him to get ran over in the street, so unless im outside with him, i have a light chain and stake in the yard just right outside our front door. I tye him up and leave him out there for about 10 minutes or so, and then let him back in. He also makes me mad, cause if im in a hurry and just let him out w/ out tying him up then he'll run around, and wont come to me. The only solution I guess would be to tye him up, it only takes about 10 seconds, so you wont be away from your baby that long. Someone recommend me getting my dog neutered so he will be less apt to running around w/ other dogs, but idk if that would be true or not. Good luck!
try putting him on a leash when you go out and when he goes potty tell him good dog and what not and bring him in maybe then he will know he goes outside to go to the potty, if not that just buy a long leash and attach it on he collar and let him run around with it on and it will be easier to bring him in
hope this helps!
Hi one thing i have done with my Chi when i have to be gone a long time or when our weather is like it is now yucky, i put papers down in the bathroom water food and a blanket. I then put the baby gate across and give her all her toys to play with. She uses the papers and i don't have to worry about her freezing to death. Chi's can't take much cold and get hypothermia really easy. So this is idea you might try. I don't blame u for not going out with the puppy when u have a baby. But i would try that and see if it helps at least until he gets older and can hold his bladder more. You could also try that idea when it is time to go to the bathroom and just put him on the papers in that room for a short time then bring him out. Puppies have to urinate and have bowel movements every time after eating and drinking so it's almost clock work with them they eat they poop they drink they pee kind of like a doll hee hee. The great thing is that they don't make too big of messes on the papers because they are so tiny. Good Luck!
because your letting him stay out there, make him come in!! u are the leader!!! with a lead if u have to or keep him on a long line while out there then real him in when your ready. if u say it ok for him to stay out there for as long as he wants in the summer he gonna wonder why he is not aloud in the winter?? the general attitude towards the dog will show u have to be persistant in summer or winter dogs love rutine and need to be kept in one.
Don't let him out without tethering him to something near the door so that you can reel him in if he's being recalcitrant. There are 30' long longe lines (usually used for horses) that you can buy for this purpose (the line will also come in handy when you're teaching your dog to heel in the spring). Call him one time. If he doesn't come, reel him in. Give him praise and a treat when he comes, regardless of whether he did it under his own steam or you had to reel him in.
If you could, it would be better to take him out instead of letting him out so that you can give him cues about what he's supposed to do out there. You could, for example, give him a phrase like ';go potty'; or ';hurry up'; as soon as he squats to do his business, then say ';good potty'; or ';good hurry up'; when he's done. Praise him for going. That way he'll know he's done something you approve of. If you don't take him out, how is he supposed to learn that outside is the place to go potty? You could also teach him to go only in one area of the yard, so you won't have to clean the entire yard every day or every other day. And if he's in the habit of going in a certain area, then when spring comes and you can take your daughter out to play with you in the yard, you won't have to worry about her stepping in one of your dog's ';presents.';
Good luck!
ApacapacasChihuahua problem, please give some advice-thanks!?
instead of just letting your dog out why dont you walk him or take him out on a leash until he does his business?
my 7 month old chihuahua does the same thing sept i live in Texas so it don't get to cold.we just leave her outside if she scratches at the door we open it and if she runs away we close it when she is ready she will come in when we open the door im sure it will be the same for you when he gets cold enough he will come inside just make sure you have a jacket on him and maybe shoes or go out and get him
First of all a little dog like that should only be out about 5 to 10 minutes at the most. You should put a harness and leash on him and take him out...give him a few minutes to go and then take him back in. If he doesn't go then place him in the crate and try again in 45 min to an hour, keeep doing this until he gets the idea that he is suppose to potty and come back in. It will take 5 minutes each time so put your 19 month old in a safe place (secured in high chair, in her crib etc. and deal with it) if you don't have 5 minutes to deal with the dog you don't need the dog.
I have the same problem w/ my chi Buzz.. he likes to go out. And when I dont tye him up he runs around and chases cats and plays w/ our neighbors dogs that are always running around the neighborhood. I dont want him to get ran over in the street, so unless im outside with him, i have a light chain and stake in the yard just right outside our front door. I tye him up and leave him out there for about 10 minutes or so, and then let him back in. He also makes me mad, cause if im in a hurry and just let him out w/ out tying him up then he'll run around, and wont come to me. The only solution I guess would be to tye him up, it only takes about 10 seconds, so you wont be away from your baby that long. Someone recommend me getting my dog neutered so he will be less apt to running around w/ other dogs, but idk if that would be true or not. Good luck!
try putting him on a leash when you go out and when he goes potty tell him good dog and what not and bring him in maybe then he will know he goes outside to go to the potty, if not that just buy a long leash and attach it on he collar and let him run around with it on and it will be easier to bring him in
hope this helps!
Hi one thing i have done with my Chi when i have to be gone a long time or when our weather is like it is now yucky, i put papers down in the bathroom water food and a blanket. I then put the baby gate across and give her all her toys to play with. She uses the papers and i don't have to worry about her freezing to death. Chi's can't take much cold and get hypothermia really easy. So this is idea you might try. I don't blame u for not going out with the puppy when u have a baby. But i would try that and see if it helps at least until he gets older and can hold his bladder more. You could also try that idea when it is time to go to the bathroom and just put him on the papers in that room for a short time then bring him out. Puppies have to urinate and have bowel movements every time after eating and drinking so it's almost clock work with them they eat they poop they drink they pee kind of like a doll hee hee. The great thing is that they don't make too big of messes on the papers because they are so tiny. Good Luck!
because your letting him stay out there, make him come in!! u are the leader!!! with a lead if u have to or keep him on a long line while out there then real him in when your ready. if u say it ok for him to stay out there for as long as he wants in the summer he gonna wonder why he is not aloud in the winter?? the general attitude towards the dog will show u have to be persistant in summer or winter dogs love rutine and need to be kept in one.
Guy problem? Help plz!!! some advice?!!!!!!!?
Ok so there's this really hot guy named Blake abercrombie. I see him around school a lot. Me and my bestest friend lark like him. Shes aloud to date but im not. All of my friends seem to be encouraging and totally forget that i like him to. but thats okay...i guess. He was larks square dancing partner in pe and he was my corner and he was just so nice and polite. i know his family cuz i did cheerleading with his sister and my mom nos his mom. I think i can defintitely make conversation with him but larks holding me back. she isn't shy but shes just nervous shell get rejected. but i dont no wat to do. should i talk to him? let lark hav him or let the school year go by without either one of us talking to him wat should i do????Guy problem? Help plz!!! some advice?!!!!!!!?
You shouldn't let your friend's possible relationship with him ruin your chance of getting to know him cuz you might regret it later.. It happen to me and i sort of did. Since you can't date him yet and least get to know him better become a good friend and in that way you know what he's like when your ready to date and you can make an educated decision.. Hope that helped.. Oh and ps: thanks for answering one of my questions!Guy problem? Help plz!!! some advice?!!!!!!!?
Don't worry about it.
If you still do square dancing in PE and you're not allowed to date, that means you're still too young. Wait til high school.
well if you're not allowed 2 dat him dont ruin ur realtionship wth lark. maybe let her date and flirt wth him while u become his best friend. so when u can date and larks over him or has broen upp with him he'll rlly want 2 date u
Ok so broes before hoes you should go for it
you sound like you're in 6th grade.
how old r u?
why is she allowed to date him and not you?
well you should never let an oppurtunity go wasted because thats one of the few things you may regret in life ... so you should maybe not try to date him if you arent allowed to for whatever reason but maybe talk to him and just become friends so that maybe when you can he will still be hot and you will still like him but the other problem you have is that your friend likes him too soo you should let her know that you are just trying to make a friend and introduce her as well because you dont want to lose a good friend over anything stupid ... thats the best i can do
You shouldn't let your friend's possible relationship with him ruin your chance of getting to know him cuz you might regret it later.. It happen to me and i sort of did. Since you can't date him yet and least get to know him better become a good friend and in that way you know what he's like when your ready to date and you can make an educated decision.. Hope that helped.. Oh and ps: thanks for answering one of my questions!Guy problem? Help plz!!! some advice?!!!!!!!?
Don't worry about it.
If you still do square dancing in PE and you're not allowed to date, that means you're still too young. Wait til high school.
well if you're not allowed 2 dat him dont ruin ur realtionship wth lark. maybe let her date and flirt wth him while u become his best friend. so when u can date and larks over him or has broen upp with him he'll rlly want 2 date u
Ok so broes before hoes you should go for it
you sound like you're in 6th grade.
how old r u?
why is she allowed to date him and not you?
well you should never let an oppurtunity go wasted because thats one of the few things you may regret in life ... so you should maybe not try to date him if you arent allowed to for whatever reason but maybe talk to him and just become friends so that maybe when you can he will still be hot and you will still like him but the other problem you have is that your friend likes him too soo you should let her know that you are just trying to make a friend and introduce her as well because you dont want to lose a good friend over anything stupid ... thats the best i can do
Patience problem with gf...NEED ADVICE?
Alright, so me and my gf have been arguing on and off for awhile now. We just got into a really BAD argument and now she just needs space to cool off...problem is that we live together...
I get really impatient because i expect the problem to go away in a few days, but that's just not the case. What can i do to deal with the passing time while she's still getting cooled off from me? She always tells me that ';this stuff doesn't change overnight'. Im a pretty forgiving guy and it usually takes me no more than a day to get over something, but shes not like that anymore. What should i do?
Any advice??
P.S. there's a kid involved so i cant just leave and give her time alone...Patience problem with gf...NEED ADVICE?
You are clearly in a very tough spot right now. A very telling sign that this relationship has serious trouble is you say ';shes not like that anymore';. The two of you have some serious talking to do, for the sake of the child. A lot of fighting can affect a child worse than two people who split up yet work together to best care for that child.
I get really impatient because i expect the problem to go away in a few days, but that's just not the case. What can i do to deal with the passing time while she's still getting cooled off from me? She always tells me that ';this stuff doesn't change overnight'. Im a pretty forgiving guy and it usually takes me no more than a day to get over something, but shes not like that anymore. What should i do?
Any advice??
P.S. there's a kid involved so i cant just leave and give her time alone...Patience problem with gf...NEED ADVICE?
You are clearly in a very tough spot right now. A very telling sign that this relationship has serious trouble is you say ';shes not like that anymore';. The two of you have some serious talking to do, for the sake of the child. A lot of fighting can affect a child worse than two people who split up yet work together to best care for that child.
Can someone read my problem and give me some advice?
Im 7 months pregnant with my 3rd child. me,my kids and hubby all live together under 1 bedroom house *for now*..i have stress on my hands etc already. My sister in law is having problems and took her and her 2 month old in until she gets on her feet. our place is kinda small yes. She knows we are in the process of getting a 3 bedroom but she has been getting frustrated with the living situation. If a fly comes in the house she gets aggravated and says we all need to move,she complains about the furniture because its not perfect and worries about baby sitting on it and herself breathing in dust at times. complains about the size of the house,when my little boy touches her baby and trys to help her out. she just gets real aggravated and it upsets me at times,cause we are in hard times and she doesnt need to rub it in. I love her and know she is going through some things but i just wish she wouldnt complain so much, im not gonna tell her about this but how do i deal with it and the stressCan someone read my problem and give me some advice?
You're doing nothing wrong! You ought to be canonized, but if she's going to complain, remind her that at least she has a place to live (say it subtly). It's not your fault. Encourage her to get back on her feet. Tell her about job opportunities. Don't let her be a mooch.Can someone read my problem and give me some advice?
well...let me see...either you can kick her out of the house or there might be a better solution
If I were you....I would tell her...here is the situation...we are living in hard times and she is not making it any better...tell her to clean the house and if she doesn't like the furniture...try to order herself...
one thing I have learned...you can empathise with someone but you can't feel what they feel...try to make her feel what are going through...otherwise she should be out of the house...
stress can affect your childbirth...and hey this life...someone has to learn the hard way
Your sister in law is also stressed. You two need to sit down and talk to either other. Both expressing what you both want. But you also need to tell her that her complaining isn't making things any easier for anyone including herself. She needs to just chill and make the best of the living situation. If all of you are making right moves the living conditions should change soon. Tell her to think if she wasn't living with you and her brother where would she and her baby be. I'm should that her being with you two is the best place and the safest. Tell her to think about this and be thankful and grateful that you were understanding of her needs, because you and your family was already in a stressed situation, and no could have been the answer to her question.
sweetheart this is never easy.
family is something that we love, and need but when it stresses us out we could use a break. it sounds like your sister is also very stressed. i am a stay at home mom without my drivers license, and i just had my second child three weeks ago i know alot about being pregnant and at the seventh month is when i began to get terribly stressed also. i found that getting out of the house was a big help. i took the kids to the park, the beach, movies anything i could. being outside really helped lift my stress, and the kids too. this may help you too. sometimes causing more stress for you may be the way to go... tell your sister that you will take care of the kids today and give her a day off. this should help her too. however make the agreement that you will get a day off the nest day or soon there after. helping each other lose the stresses of life should improve your situation.
if she is upset about the cleanliness of the house you and your hubby could offer to take the kids to the park for a few hours while she stays home to clean the house so that it is more suitable for her too! i tend to get upset with my sister a times and blow up at her. screaming, and yelling, avoiding this could be a good thing. however after a good argument we resolve it and tend to feel much better too!
try allowing time for your self, and her self. time for a long bath, or some reading. also if she is a freak-out case then you may have to ask your hubby to take the kids for the evening so that you can relax outside and watch the stars trail by.
i honestly think that if you and your sister get out of the house, with the kids, and sometimes alone you will both benefit from the stress relief. keep in mind though that you are not allowed to take a bath when you are pregnant, so maybe a long shower, or just relaxing in some way of your choice.
other stress relieves:
*fresh flowers around the home brightens the house, and makes it more pleasant to live in.
*aroma scented candles release tension.
*calm music, this is also often fun to dance with the kids. tire them out and get them to nap.
an other way to get kids to nap earlier if you also need a nap is water play. the sun and water drains their energy quicker so set up a pool, sprinkler or just let them play with water guns, balloons etc.
gardening is a good thing for ids sometimes too, also it can be relaxing.
about how she talks to your son when he tries to help with the baby you could try to politely explain to her that he is trying to help, and he responds much better to direct talking then to hysterical shouting (if that is what she does). tell her that he loves the baby, and really wants to connect with it. explaining that he is building a strong relationship that will continue throughout their lives , also may help her understand and desire for him to contribute to the babies everyday routine.
I think you have 2 options.....1) you can tell her that inspite of your cramped conditions and your own stress you took her and her baby in, she should be grateful because she could be on the street and tell her to get a job and leave Or 2) throw her straight out no explination just tell her you want her out tonight. personally I'd tell her to get out now.
I'm sorry, but she is extremely ungrateful for someone you have taken into your already overcrowded home.
Not everyone can be born rich and most people have to work for anything they want in life. If she isn't happy with the size of your home, why doesn't she do something with her own life. When you and your husband get your new home, does she expect to continue to live with you? Is she contributing anything to the house besides noise pollution?
I think you should talk to her. Tell her that although you and your husband may not have much, you are sharing what you have with her. She should respect and appreciate that.
It sounds as though you could use a break. Why don't you get a friend or family member to babysit and get out of the house for a while. Even if you can only go to the park for a walk or get a coffee. Good luck, if you need someone to talk to, you can email via my profile page.
JMO but you took your sis in out of the kindness of your heart. I am very outspoken so if she complained about it I would tell her to be happy she has a roof %26amp; if she has a problem she knows where the door is.
tell her you appreciate the problems she is going through, since you share so many of them. Remind that complaining doesn't fix the problem - it only creates new problems. So she either needs to be patient until the situation changes, or help remedy the problem with positive solutions. Tell her that you love her and want to help her, but that she needs to be helpful as well.
Tell her that's a wonderful idea she has about moving. Ask her when will she be moving? Grab a calender and pen and stare her down until she answers.
Be honest with her. Tell her just as you have said it in your question. You both have problems and you are very kind to take her in in an already overloaded household. If you two can be friends and listen to one anothers thoughts, I believe you can make it until you get the three bedroom house.
Tell your husband, it's his sister and your house put your foot down, besides you can always blame it on hormones:)
Do tell. Tell her the same way that you told us. Tell her you love her and know she is going through a hard time. Let her know you are happy to have her and the baby there, but it is hard for you too. Tell her it is hard on all of you and that you know what is wrong with the house but you will ALL have to do your best until you get into a bigger place.
You are so kind to take her in while you are pregnant and crowded and stressed out already. Good luck already.
you have to get your sister out of your house. You have to tell her. You are going threw hard times yourself. You cant fix her problems you can only fix yours. Please get her out of your house the stress on you needs to be gone. You also need to get a bigger place even if it means getting social assistance. They will help if they see your living arrangements
I hate to say this but I would tell her to get out ... I know she is your sister but you already have a small place with 2 kids plus you are pregnant with another .... you don't need to stress.
If you don't want to do that then tell her that she stops the
b!tching or she is out.
you say you love your sister in law it seems you have an understanding and repecting bond between you both. Why don't you take her with her kid and yours to chipmunks or a park and then sit with a coffee and start the discussion with how you guys are dealing with you personal problems and tell her you feel sad that she (sister in law) has to go through all with you guys thank her for understanding (even though she doesn;t) and also sweetly let her know that what ever the house or your kids are like she has no option so all us have to live happily and understand each other.
When she opens her yap to complain, suggest that if she doesn't like it to move out. If she still complains, start packing her stuff, and put it outside of the door. Hopefully she'll get the hint.
Hey,
you need to understand that there are people who deal with their problems in many different ways and i guess that her way of showing shes in problems is by complaining ect. So just try talking to her and tell her that itll be ok in a few months and that at least shes with you and not with someone else that is not family that might not consider her as much as you do.
You're doing nothing wrong! You ought to be canonized, but if she's going to complain, remind her that at least she has a place to live (say it subtly). It's not your fault. Encourage her to get back on her feet. Tell her about job opportunities. Don't let her be a mooch.Can someone read my problem and give me some advice?
well...let me see...either you can kick her out of the house or there might be a better solution
If I were you....I would tell her...here is the situation...we are living in hard times and she is not making it any better...tell her to clean the house and if she doesn't like the furniture...try to order herself...
one thing I have learned...you can empathise with someone but you can't feel what they feel...try to make her feel what are going through...otherwise she should be out of the house...
stress can affect your childbirth...and hey this life...someone has to learn the hard way
Your sister in law is also stressed. You two need to sit down and talk to either other. Both expressing what you both want. But you also need to tell her that her complaining isn't making things any easier for anyone including herself. She needs to just chill and make the best of the living situation. If all of you are making right moves the living conditions should change soon. Tell her to think if she wasn't living with you and her brother where would she and her baby be. I'm should that her being with you two is the best place and the safest. Tell her to think about this and be thankful and grateful that you were understanding of her needs, because you and your family was already in a stressed situation, and no could have been the answer to her question.
sweetheart this is never easy.
family is something that we love, and need but when it stresses us out we could use a break. it sounds like your sister is also very stressed. i am a stay at home mom without my drivers license, and i just had my second child three weeks ago i know alot about being pregnant and at the seventh month is when i began to get terribly stressed also. i found that getting out of the house was a big help. i took the kids to the park, the beach, movies anything i could. being outside really helped lift my stress, and the kids too. this may help you too. sometimes causing more stress for you may be the way to go... tell your sister that you will take care of the kids today and give her a day off. this should help her too. however make the agreement that you will get a day off the nest day or soon there after. helping each other lose the stresses of life should improve your situation.
if she is upset about the cleanliness of the house you and your hubby could offer to take the kids to the park for a few hours while she stays home to clean the house so that it is more suitable for her too! i tend to get upset with my sister a times and blow up at her. screaming, and yelling, avoiding this could be a good thing. however after a good argument we resolve it and tend to feel much better too!
try allowing time for your self, and her self. time for a long bath, or some reading. also if she is a freak-out case then you may have to ask your hubby to take the kids for the evening so that you can relax outside and watch the stars trail by.
i honestly think that if you and your sister get out of the house, with the kids, and sometimes alone you will both benefit from the stress relief. keep in mind though that you are not allowed to take a bath when you are pregnant, so maybe a long shower, or just relaxing in some way of your choice.
other stress relieves:
*fresh flowers around the home brightens the house, and makes it more pleasant to live in.
*aroma scented candles release tension.
*calm music, this is also often fun to dance with the kids. tire them out and get them to nap.
an other way to get kids to nap earlier if you also need a nap is water play. the sun and water drains their energy quicker so set up a pool, sprinkler or just let them play with water guns, balloons etc.
gardening is a good thing for ids sometimes too, also it can be relaxing.
about how she talks to your son when he tries to help with the baby you could try to politely explain to her that he is trying to help, and he responds much better to direct talking then to hysterical shouting (if that is what she does). tell her that he loves the baby, and really wants to connect with it. explaining that he is building a strong relationship that will continue throughout their lives , also may help her understand and desire for him to contribute to the babies everyday routine.
I think you have 2 options.....1) you can tell her that inspite of your cramped conditions and your own stress you took her and her baby in, she should be grateful because she could be on the street and tell her to get a job and leave Or 2) throw her straight out no explination just tell her you want her out tonight. personally I'd tell her to get out now.
I'm sorry, but she is extremely ungrateful for someone you have taken into your already overcrowded home.
Not everyone can be born rich and most people have to work for anything they want in life. If she isn't happy with the size of your home, why doesn't she do something with her own life. When you and your husband get your new home, does she expect to continue to live with you? Is she contributing anything to the house besides noise pollution?
I think you should talk to her. Tell her that although you and your husband may not have much, you are sharing what you have with her. She should respect and appreciate that.
It sounds as though you could use a break. Why don't you get a friend or family member to babysit and get out of the house for a while. Even if you can only go to the park for a walk or get a coffee. Good luck, if you need someone to talk to, you can email via my profile page.
JMO but you took your sis in out of the kindness of your heart. I am very outspoken so if she complained about it I would tell her to be happy she has a roof %26amp; if she has a problem she knows where the door is.
tell her you appreciate the problems she is going through, since you share so many of them. Remind that complaining doesn't fix the problem - it only creates new problems. So she either needs to be patient until the situation changes, or help remedy the problem with positive solutions. Tell her that you love her and want to help her, but that she needs to be helpful as well.
Tell her that's a wonderful idea she has about moving. Ask her when will she be moving? Grab a calender and pen and stare her down until she answers.
Be honest with her. Tell her just as you have said it in your question. You both have problems and you are very kind to take her in in an already overloaded household. If you two can be friends and listen to one anothers thoughts, I believe you can make it until you get the three bedroom house.
Tell your husband, it's his sister and your house put your foot down, besides you can always blame it on hormones:)
Do tell. Tell her the same way that you told us. Tell her you love her and know she is going through a hard time. Let her know you are happy to have her and the baby there, but it is hard for you too. Tell her it is hard on all of you and that you know what is wrong with the house but you will ALL have to do your best until you get into a bigger place.
You are so kind to take her in while you are pregnant and crowded and stressed out already. Good luck already.
you have to get your sister out of your house. You have to tell her. You are going threw hard times yourself. You cant fix her problems you can only fix yours. Please get her out of your house the stress on you needs to be gone. You also need to get a bigger place even if it means getting social assistance. They will help if they see your living arrangements
I hate to say this but I would tell her to get out ... I know she is your sister but you already have a small place with 2 kids plus you are pregnant with another .... you don't need to stress.
If you don't want to do that then tell her that she stops the
b!tching or she is out.
you say you love your sister in law it seems you have an understanding and repecting bond between you both. Why don't you take her with her kid and yours to chipmunks or a park and then sit with a coffee and start the discussion with how you guys are dealing with you personal problems and tell her you feel sad that she (sister in law) has to go through all with you guys thank her for understanding (even though she doesn;t) and also sweetly let her know that what ever the house or your kids are like she has no option so all us have to live happily and understand each other.
When she opens her yap to complain, suggest that if she doesn't like it to move out. If she still complains, start packing her stuff, and put it outside of the door. Hopefully she'll get the hint.
Hey,
you need to understand that there are people who deal with their problems in many different ways and i guess that her way of showing shes in problems is by complaining ect. So just try talking to her and tell her that itll be ok in a few months and that at least shes with you and not with someone else that is not family that might not consider her as much as you do.
Real problem and need real advice?
I need some real suggestions for a course of action! My ex husband is in jail for viewing child porn on a gov. computer and then was accused of molesting his own child (from another marriage) Well we have two young children from our marriage and the time for him to get out of prison is upon me. I don't want him anywhere near my children. I have been caring for them over the last 3 1/2 years and I don't want them around the man. The biggest thing in my favor is that he will be a registered sex offender when he gets out, but I've known RSO that had some custody of their kids. I see him a threat to my two young daughters and would like to know if there is anyone out there that has been in this position? What course of action did you take to protect your children for this type of person? I have 8 months to get my ducks in a row so to speak. Thank you to all the respondReal problem and need real advice?
First of all go get an ';Order of Protection';....then contact a good lawyer. Don't drag your feet getting everything set so that you are prepared when he gets out. I hope you have been to court all ready to get custody settled. If you have not get your butt down to the court house. Since he is a registered sex offender and he molested his own child, I do not believe that he will have any visitation rights!! If you have not done so, get the divorce in motion!!Real problem and need real advice?
Talk to lawyer but Order of Protection just before his release. Yes he can fight for custody but he is a convicted child molester. Doubt he will even be able to have visits let alone custody!
That IS a REAL problem! My advise is that you get the advise of a very qualified LAWYER! And do what ever he tells you to do!
You need to pack up your girls and you move somewhere he will not think of .. Get a lawyer and when and if you have to go to court again use your lawyers address as your own so he doesn't know where you live.. GOOD LUCK..
I think the best thing for you to do is get a restraining order so he cant go near you or the children. Good Luck and God Bless you and your girls
File a restraining order and get yourself a good lawyer ASAP!
Great, 8 mos. gives you plenty of time to get ready. Get an Attorney immediately (A GOOD ONE). Get an Order of Protection and make sure you have full custody as sole guardian. Trust me we could go on and on but ultimately you need to get a good attorney even if it costs a little more
First of all go get an ';Order of Protection';....then contact a good lawyer. Don't drag your feet getting everything set so that you are prepared when he gets out. I hope you have been to court all ready to get custody settled. If you have not get your butt down to the court house. Since he is a registered sex offender and he molested his own child, I do not believe that he will have any visitation rights!! If you have not done so, get the divorce in motion!!Real problem and need real advice?
Talk to lawyer but Order of Protection just before his release. Yes he can fight for custody but he is a convicted child molester. Doubt he will even be able to have visits let alone custody!
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That IS a REAL problem! My advise is that you get the advise of a very qualified LAWYER! And do what ever he tells you to do!
You need to pack up your girls and you move somewhere he will not think of .. Get a lawyer and when and if you have to go to court again use your lawyers address as your own so he doesn't know where you live.. GOOD LUCK..
I think the best thing for you to do is get a restraining order so he cant go near you or the children. Good Luck and God Bless you and your girls
File a restraining order and get yourself a good lawyer ASAP!
Great, 8 mos. gives you plenty of time to get ready. Get an Attorney immediately (A GOOD ONE). Get an Order of Protection and make sure you have full custody as sole guardian. Trust me we could go on and on but ultimately you need to get a good attorney even if it costs a little more
Boy problem!!!!!!needs help and advice.....10 points for first best answer!!!?
this is the 5 th time i asked today but i can't find a good answer
i like this guy from two of my classes P.E. and Thetre arts...
one of my friends likes him too.
she told me last night that he said that he likes me and i wasn't supposed to know about it tillhe asks me out!!
i don't know if she's telling the truth or not
i always catch him looking at me....
and i'm a really shy person...
what can i do???
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he's one of those guys you'll never forget about he's cute,he's handsome, smart, athletic and super nice
Boy problem!!!!!!needs help and advice.....10 points for first best answer!!!?
No offense but I find it humorous that competition is so strong in the young.
I suggest you make some kind of a move. I'd stop using the GF for second hand info, and definitely not use her as a messenger. It's not at all cool to have a wing man/girl.
You already have two things in common with the boy, ask a question or two, of him, or make a comment about either class, especially the theater/arts class. He may have no clue about your feelings, so do something that causes him to stop wondering, and stop the competition.
It's school, it's friendship, it's not dragging by his belt to a church to get married.
AngelBoy problem!!!!!!needs help and advice.....10 points for first best answer!!!?
why would your friend lie to you? is it the same friend that likes him too cos if it is thats very nice of her to tell you considering she likes him too and could of kept it to herself.
whilst waiting for him to ask you out, drop hints that you like him too
keep looking at him too and when he catches you smile at him, dont look away hold it and say hi..
start waving and saying hello to him when you pass him this will help break the ice when he does ask you and it will also show that you do like him aswel
hmmm.... when you catch him looking at you smile at him. that makes boys a little more courageous in how you feel. I know you're shy but guys can't do all the work cuz they're shy too! if he likes you then a smile and or a giggle and look away might give him the guts to ask you out. and, if not, then he may not like you. but then you have no embarrassment.
Ive been in this situation before! if she said she likes him then shes telling you he said he likes you, then he must because otherwise she would want to be keeping him to herself.
i think you should talk to him, he will love it :) and it will spice things up.
or just wait to see if he asks you out soon ?
vote me as best answer, trust me it will work.
go up to him and say are you looking at me all the time or someone behind me lol or i dont know if she is lieing add up the clues i you will know why would he tell her that he likes you but you wasn't suppose to know and if he really wan'ts you then he wiill ask you out
or try stairing at him in the eyes and not saying nothing %26lt;(-_-)%26gt; will he kiss you or not?
You and your friend are still young. I hope you are not planning of marrying this guy. I think you should tell your friend how you like the same guy. Tell her you want to know if he does like you. Your friend might be telling you he likes you because she is jealous. If he like you than go for it.
even though you are not ';supposed to kno'; i would go and ask him. I would tell him that you are into him and that you heard that he liked you like a rumor going around. But honestly i would just go up to him and talk to him about it instead of feeling that emptiness and wondering if its true.
Just wait and see, i reckon he might like you and he is prob just waiting for the right time to tell you. What you should do is tell him you like him but at the same time tell him you would liek to be friends too,... hopefully he is mature enough to deal with that and comes clean about his feelings for you too!!! best of luck sweetheart!
well im not really sure what your asking. but i think its ok if you dated him even though your friend likes him because they didnt date and she said he likes you to. so if he doesnt like her then... why waste time. i think you should go for it.
but really there was no question here
Why would she be lying? The truth is bound to come out when he asks you out...And if you catch him looking at u..YES he likes you! Just wait for him to come to you.
If you really like him,just follow your heart..
I'm sure your heart don't lie..
If you're shy,maybe you can ask one of your friend to accompany you..
GOOD LUCK(:
Just wait for a little while....if he doesnt ask you out with in a few days maybe start talking to himm......you never know he could be shy
ask your friend if she really really likes him, if she says no then go and ask him out, be brave, see how it goes.
If u think that he did like u then just behave normally. Time will come for him to ask u out.
Aww, that is so sweet.
Oh,I didn't know you and your friend like me.Lets talk about it tomorrow
go for it ask him out
I'd actually get talking via sms or online if possible if you're the shy type. If that isn't possible you can actually find out if he likes you in a non direct way... though this involves being calm cool and in very light hearted conversation.
basically what you want to be asking is who he likes in a ';im just playful and curious'; kind of way and at the same time making crazy suggestions like is it ';soandso'; or ';thatgirl'; (people you know, maybe even your friend)
This might make him spill the beans about having a thing for you =)acne
i like this guy from two of my classes P.E. and Thetre arts...
one of my friends likes him too.
she told me last night that he said that he likes me and i wasn't supposed to know about it tillhe asks me out!!
i don't know if she's telling the truth or not
i always catch him looking at me....
and i'm a really shy person...
what can i do???
1 day ago
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1 day ago
he's one of those guys you'll never forget about he's cute,he's handsome, smart, athletic and super nice
Boy problem!!!!!!needs help and advice.....10 points for first best answer!!!?
No offense but I find it humorous that competition is so strong in the young.
I suggest you make some kind of a move. I'd stop using the GF for second hand info, and definitely not use her as a messenger. It's not at all cool to have a wing man/girl.
You already have two things in common with the boy, ask a question or two, of him, or make a comment about either class, especially the theater/arts class. He may have no clue about your feelings, so do something that causes him to stop wondering, and stop the competition.
It's school, it's friendship, it's not dragging by his belt to a church to get married.
AngelBoy problem!!!!!!needs help and advice.....10 points for first best answer!!!?
why would your friend lie to you? is it the same friend that likes him too cos if it is thats very nice of her to tell you considering she likes him too and could of kept it to herself.
whilst waiting for him to ask you out, drop hints that you like him too
keep looking at him too and when he catches you smile at him, dont look away hold it and say hi..
start waving and saying hello to him when you pass him this will help break the ice when he does ask you and it will also show that you do like him aswel
hmmm.... when you catch him looking at you smile at him. that makes boys a little more courageous in how you feel. I know you're shy but guys can't do all the work cuz they're shy too! if he likes you then a smile and or a giggle and look away might give him the guts to ask you out. and, if not, then he may not like you. but then you have no embarrassment.
Ive been in this situation before! if she said she likes him then shes telling you he said he likes you, then he must because otherwise she would want to be keeping him to herself.
i think you should talk to him, he will love it :) and it will spice things up.
or just wait to see if he asks you out soon ?
vote me as best answer, trust me it will work.
go up to him and say are you looking at me all the time or someone behind me lol or i dont know if she is lieing add up the clues i you will know why would he tell her that he likes you but you wasn't suppose to know and if he really wan'ts you then he wiill ask you out
or try stairing at him in the eyes and not saying nothing %26lt;(-_-)%26gt; will he kiss you or not?
You and your friend are still young. I hope you are not planning of marrying this guy. I think you should tell your friend how you like the same guy. Tell her you want to know if he does like you. Your friend might be telling you he likes you because she is jealous. If he like you than go for it.
even though you are not ';supposed to kno'; i would go and ask him. I would tell him that you are into him and that you heard that he liked you like a rumor going around. But honestly i would just go up to him and talk to him about it instead of feeling that emptiness and wondering if its true.
Just wait and see, i reckon he might like you and he is prob just waiting for the right time to tell you. What you should do is tell him you like him but at the same time tell him you would liek to be friends too,... hopefully he is mature enough to deal with that and comes clean about his feelings for you too!!! best of luck sweetheart!
well im not really sure what your asking. but i think its ok if you dated him even though your friend likes him because they didnt date and she said he likes you to. so if he doesnt like her then... why waste time. i think you should go for it.
but really there was no question here
Why would she be lying? The truth is bound to come out when he asks you out...And if you catch him looking at u..YES he likes you! Just wait for him to come to you.
If you really like him,just follow your heart..
I'm sure your heart don't lie..
If you're shy,maybe you can ask one of your friend to accompany you..
GOOD LUCK(:
Just wait for a little while....if he doesnt ask you out with in a few days maybe start talking to himm......you never know he could be shy
ask your friend if she really really likes him, if she says no then go and ask him out, be brave, see how it goes.
If u think that he did like u then just behave normally. Time will come for him to ask u out.
Aww, that is so sweet.
Oh,I didn't know you and your friend like me.Lets talk about it tomorrow
go for it ask him out
I'd actually get talking via sms or online if possible if you're the shy type. If that isn't possible you can actually find out if he likes you in a non direct way... though this involves being calm cool and in very light hearted conversation.
basically what you want to be asking is who he likes in a ';im just playful and curious'; kind of way and at the same time making crazy suggestions like is it ';soandso'; or ';thatgirl'; (people you know, maybe even your friend)
This might make him spill the beans about having a thing for you =)
Big problem need as muc advice as can get?
im 16 my gf is 15 shes pregnant and in a foster home
my gf cheated on me in augst in out 3rd month of dating and i just cant get over it..i just got out of juvy hall after beign there 4 only 18 days and while i was in there she was talking 2 about 6 guys dat she knows i dnt want her talking 2 she talked 2 ALL of them about dating n she expects me 2 trust her HA
i cant get the thought of her doing this again
she lived with me 4 6 months and reciently got put into the foster system cuz of her ***** of a mom
i want too know weather too leave her or 2 stay
culd u explain ur answers 2 pleasEBig problem need as muc advice as can get?
ermm why were you in juvie.
i think that if you dont trust her then you should explain to her that because she cheated on you before, you cant trust her in the same way and you want her to stop talking to these guys. if she doesnt listen, tell her you want to finish with her.
although i think you should stay friends, sounds like she isn t having the best time right now and she may need some friends. i would particularly recommend sticking around if the baby is yours (you didnt really make that clear)
either way hope it goes ok and you are happy
my gf cheated on me in augst in out 3rd month of dating and i just cant get over it..i just got out of juvy hall after beign there 4 only 18 days and while i was in there she was talking 2 about 6 guys dat she knows i dnt want her talking 2 she talked 2 ALL of them about dating n she expects me 2 trust her HA
i cant get the thought of her doing this again
she lived with me 4 6 months and reciently got put into the foster system cuz of her ***** of a mom
i want too know weather too leave her or 2 stay
culd u explain ur answers 2 pleasEBig problem need as muc advice as can get?
ermm why were you in juvie.
i think that if you dont trust her then you should explain to her that because she cheated on you before, you cant trust her in the same way and you want her to stop talking to these guys. if she doesnt listen, tell her you want to finish with her.
although i think you should stay friends, sounds like she isn t having the best time right now and she may need some friends. i would particularly recommend sticking around if the baby is yours (you didnt really make that clear)
either way hope it goes ok and you are happy
Friend Problem?!i need some advice...?
hi!
okay..i`m new in this JAPANESE SCHOOL and i still can`t speak perfect Japanese and only this girl is trying so hard to talk to me and i can really understand her i think we have some connections or something were really compatible to be friend but she has a BEST FRIEND at the start it is really fine with me but i noticed that every time they see or talk they're ignoring me like i`m LOST and i look like an idiot looking at them talking.for me her BEST FRIEND is really nice but i think i`m being selfish right?!i`m really jealous every time my new friend talk about her BEST FRIEND i just hate it....what should i do should i just avoid my friend because she already have a best friend?!!!
i really appreciate all the advice..
sorry for my wrong grammar..THANKS!^3^Friend Problem?!i need some advice...?
Wow that must be really hard.Maybe ask the friend you have to come over to your house and give you help in learning the language,that might make it easier for you to talk to both your friend AND her best friend.They probably feel awkward because they dont know what to say to you as your not fluent in the language.that must be pretty upsetting for you.You Will make friends though,it will just take time.If they aren't including you,then you should look around for other people who you could talk to and hang out with.you might find that there is someone else who will be more understanding that you cant speak the language very well.Friend Problem?!i need some advice...?
try to hang out with them but tell them (in Japanese) that you're new and they need to talk really slowly around you. if they don't like you or ignore you then maybe you should get some other friends and keep them as casual friends. :)
i don't think you should avoid her just because she has a best friend, but you should ask her why she acts different around her friend.
ARE YOU GAY?
okay..i`m new in this JAPANESE SCHOOL and i still can`t speak perfect Japanese and only this girl is trying so hard to talk to me and i can really understand her i think we have some connections or something were really compatible to be friend but she has a BEST FRIEND at the start it is really fine with me but i noticed that every time they see or talk they're ignoring me like i`m LOST and i look like an idiot looking at them talking.for me her BEST FRIEND is really nice but i think i`m being selfish right?!i`m really jealous every time my new friend talk about her BEST FRIEND i just hate it....what should i do should i just avoid my friend because she already have a best friend?!!!
i really appreciate all the advice..
sorry for my wrong grammar..THANKS!^3^Friend Problem?!i need some advice...?
Wow that must be really hard.Maybe ask the friend you have to come over to your house and give you help in learning the language,that might make it easier for you to talk to both your friend AND her best friend.They probably feel awkward because they dont know what to say to you as your not fluent in the language.that must be pretty upsetting for you.You Will make friends though,it will just take time.If they aren't including you,then you should look around for other people who you could talk to and hang out with.you might find that there is someone else who will be more understanding that you cant speak the language very well.Friend Problem?!i need some advice...?
try to hang out with them but tell them (in Japanese) that you're new and they need to talk really slowly around you. if they don't like you or ignore you then maybe you should get some other friends and keep them as casual friends. :)
i don't think you should avoid her just because she has a best friend, but you should ask her why she acts different around her friend.
ARE YOU GAY?
Weight problem!!! please help - any advice welcome!!?
how much exercise do i need to do a week to make a significant impact on my weight? this is a big problem for me, and i think i'm misinterpreting just how much work this is going to be..
im not looking for a very quick fix - yeah that would be fab if any of you have anything that works?! but i doubt there's anything out there that isn't a bit of a scam. i realise the only proper way to lose weight is to eat less calories than i burn off, but how much exercise is needed for this?? thanks :)Weight problem!!! please help - any advice welcome!!?
Try to not eat that much. I used to eat alot even when I wasnt that hungry. Dont starve yourself though because that actually makes it worse because then when you do it, your body will try to obtain all the intake and that would make it worse. Not eating isnt the best thing to do is eat healthy and drink lots of water. Believe it or not, going on walks is really healthy and a good way to lose weight. It isnt asy, but if you eat healthy foods and exercise, that will definitelly help. Do eat though. Some people resort to not eating and it isnt smart. Best of luck and I know that you can do it sweety.
im not looking for a very quick fix - yeah that would be fab if any of you have anything that works?! but i doubt there's anything out there that isn't a bit of a scam. i realise the only proper way to lose weight is to eat less calories than i burn off, but how much exercise is needed for this?? thanks :)Weight problem!!! please help - any advice welcome!!?
Try to not eat that much. I used to eat alot even when I wasnt that hungry. Dont starve yourself though because that actually makes it worse because then when you do it, your body will try to obtain all the intake and that would make it worse. Not eating isnt the best thing to do is eat healthy and drink lots of water. Believe it or not, going on walks is really healthy and a good way to lose weight. It isnt asy, but if you eat healthy foods and exercise, that will definitelly help. Do eat though. Some people resort to not eating and it isnt smart. Best of luck and I know that you can do it sweety.
Sleeping problem with my toddler.. advice?
I have a 19month old son who goes to sleep in his crib at 8pm. Only problem is he won't fall asleep unless i'm in the room with him, then once he falls asleep I go to bed shortly after because he's up again at 12am. What could be waking him up? I'm almost 8 months pregnant and too tired to keep getting up and sitting in his room till he falls asleep, I've been letting him sleep in our bed once he gets up at 12 or 2 because he sleeps the rest of the night there. How do I get him to sleep all night? This is going to be annoying once our little girl arrives and she's in our room in the bassinett and we still have our toddler coming into bed? I need him to stay in his crib... how do I do this without him crying?Sleeping problem with my toddler.. advice?
Hi.
I think the reason he is waking at the same time each night must be out of habit - he has learnt to wake at that time as he knows he will then be able to go in to your bed with you, how lovely for him! Children will naturally wake in the night from their sleep cycles and usually go back to sleep but will continue a pattern of waking if their waking has been reinforced in some way (mum/dad rushing in, offering a bottle, taking him to your bed etc.).
When he wakes up at that time, instead of taking him to your bed, you have to teach him to resettle on his own. I'd start with the beginning of bedtime - he is used to you being there with him to fall asleep which is fine, and I'm not sure how you do this now, but if you stay quietly beside his bed seated on a chair without making any contact this would help him learn to settle by himself. As he gets better at it you can gradually move the chair away from him until you can leave him on his own completely. Another way is to try some controlled crying - after you have left his room and he cries, go back to comfort him with a cuddle/pat/shhhh and then leave again. Keep repeating this process as long as it takes for him to settle and gradually increase the amount of time you leave him (start off with no more than a couple of minutes and work from there on making it longer). This method works if you stick to it and usually takes a few days. Do this with him in the night also when he wakes and hopefully the night waking will eventually cease. Don't let him back in your bed either as you will end up right back at square one.
It will definitely be tiring and I sympathise with you as I had sleep problems with my son (now aged 2) whilst pregnant and after my now 14 month old came along and I was totally exhausted. Something I found really helpful was ';The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems'; by Tracey Hogg - really useful practical information and easy to read.
Best of luck.
Mum of 1 and 2 year old boys and former early childhood educator.Sleeping problem with my toddler.. advice?
Can he get out of his crib by himself? If so then it's time for a toddler bed. As for the sleeping let him cry it out. It's the only way. I did this when my son was 12 months since I was having my 2nd in 3 month. He cried for about 2 weeks for like an hour before falling asleep. He would wake up in the middle of the night, cry and go back to sleep. Now he goes to bed at 8pm and sleeps all night until 8am.
Yeah, he's going to cry. He'll keep doing this until he realizes you're not going to come and get him. It's not going to hurt him if you teach him to sleep through the night. He's old enough to figure out you just want him to sleep. Try to use the Ferber method. It's the best one for you and baby. And if you're not ready to do it before the next baby comes, you surely will be once it's here. Good luck.
If he doesn't fall asleep by himself, then he can't put himself back down without you either. Make a happy, loving routine that ends with you leaving him alone in his crib and stick to it. It takes 3-4 consistant nights to change a sleep habit, so get ready.
Also, try a nightime diaper, like Huggies overnights. They helped my little man wake up less. Good luck!
You can't, he's going to cry and it won't be pleasant, but when he wakes up at night, don't take him out of his crib and put him in your bed. Go in and make sure that he is dry, warm, not hungry and then have him lay back down. Rub his back, sing softly to him, talk with him, but DON'T pick him up and don't put him in your bed. You are not allowing him to learn to comfort himself. I was having problems with my daughter doing this and was told to do this and it really worked. It was miserable for a few nights because she did not want to stay in her own bed and would cry and get angry. But after a few nights, she got the idea. I would hear her wake up and she would lay in her crib and talk and sing to herself and her stuffed critters and pretty soon she was fast asleep. It won't hurt him to cry some, kids cry, its just a fact of life. Suck it up mom and be strong.
Give him something to keep him warm, like oatmeal it is very filling, and I use it as a snack brfore bed, like 4 spoon fulls... my daughter loves it~
wow, thats bad on u, anyways just give him time he is just a kid and it happedn like this all the time.
I feel for you try and make his room comfortabl and inviting,try telling him before he goes to sleep that he should stay in his own bed tonight
read him a bedtime story maybe 2 books and then turn on cartoons for him and explain to him that it's really time for him to go to sleep and that you need him to stay in his crib
Hi.
I think the reason he is waking at the same time each night must be out of habit - he has learnt to wake at that time as he knows he will then be able to go in to your bed with you, how lovely for him! Children will naturally wake in the night from their sleep cycles and usually go back to sleep but will continue a pattern of waking if their waking has been reinforced in some way (mum/dad rushing in, offering a bottle, taking him to your bed etc.).
When he wakes up at that time, instead of taking him to your bed, you have to teach him to resettle on his own. I'd start with the beginning of bedtime - he is used to you being there with him to fall asleep which is fine, and I'm not sure how you do this now, but if you stay quietly beside his bed seated on a chair without making any contact this would help him learn to settle by himself. As he gets better at it you can gradually move the chair away from him until you can leave him on his own completely. Another way is to try some controlled crying - after you have left his room and he cries, go back to comfort him with a cuddle/pat/shhhh and then leave again. Keep repeating this process as long as it takes for him to settle and gradually increase the amount of time you leave him (start off with no more than a couple of minutes and work from there on making it longer). This method works if you stick to it and usually takes a few days. Do this with him in the night also when he wakes and hopefully the night waking will eventually cease. Don't let him back in your bed either as you will end up right back at square one.
It will definitely be tiring and I sympathise with you as I had sleep problems with my son (now aged 2) whilst pregnant and after my now 14 month old came along and I was totally exhausted. Something I found really helpful was ';The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems'; by Tracey Hogg - really useful practical information and easy to read.
Best of luck.
Mum of 1 and 2 year old boys and former early childhood educator.Sleeping problem with my toddler.. advice?
Can he get out of his crib by himself? If so then it's time for a toddler bed. As for the sleeping let him cry it out. It's the only way. I did this when my son was 12 months since I was having my 2nd in 3 month. He cried for about 2 weeks for like an hour before falling asleep. He would wake up in the middle of the night, cry and go back to sleep. Now he goes to bed at 8pm and sleeps all night until 8am.
Yeah, he's going to cry. He'll keep doing this until he realizes you're not going to come and get him. It's not going to hurt him if you teach him to sleep through the night. He's old enough to figure out you just want him to sleep. Try to use the Ferber method. It's the best one for you and baby. And if you're not ready to do it before the next baby comes, you surely will be once it's here. Good luck.
If he doesn't fall asleep by himself, then he can't put himself back down without you either. Make a happy, loving routine that ends with you leaving him alone in his crib and stick to it. It takes 3-4 consistant nights to change a sleep habit, so get ready.
Also, try a nightime diaper, like Huggies overnights. They helped my little man wake up less. Good luck!
You can't, he's going to cry and it won't be pleasant, but when he wakes up at night, don't take him out of his crib and put him in your bed. Go in and make sure that he is dry, warm, not hungry and then have him lay back down. Rub his back, sing softly to him, talk with him, but DON'T pick him up and don't put him in your bed. You are not allowing him to learn to comfort himself. I was having problems with my daughter doing this and was told to do this and it really worked. It was miserable for a few nights because she did not want to stay in her own bed and would cry and get angry. But after a few nights, she got the idea. I would hear her wake up and she would lay in her crib and talk and sing to herself and her stuffed critters and pretty soon she was fast asleep. It won't hurt him to cry some, kids cry, its just a fact of life. Suck it up mom and be strong.
Give him something to keep him warm, like oatmeal it is very filling, and I use it as a snack brfore bed, like 4 spoon fulls... my daughter loves it~
wow, thats bad on u, anyways just give him time he is just a kid and it happedn like this all the time.
I feel for you try and make his room comfortabl and inviting,try telling him before he goes to sleep that he should stay in his own bed tonight
read him a bedtime story maybe 2 books and then turn on cartoons for him and explain to him that it's really time for him to go to sleep and that you need him to stay in his crib
Boyy problem :( just any cute advice or opinion im a teenager?
i reallly like this guy. he's fun to hang around with and he's really cool and everything.at first we were like good friends but then both of us (without saying so) knew that we wanted more. so we would like sit alone and talk and we'd always greet each other. he always made cute comments like o you have beautiful eyes and he'd joke around being like o the guys check you out cuz your hot and everything. we never officially went out but in our youth group (where we met) we would spend time just the both of us. a few weeks ago he asked ';since its the holidays, we should hang out sometime.'; i dont know what was wrong with me but i was like ';oh i dont know well see.if i have the time because god knows whats gonna happen to me'; he thinks i have no guy friends(or boyfriends) so i assume he doesnt think im going out but im inexperienced and just chickened out. for the last few weeks he doesnt greet me and on msn and stuff he never talks to me. i want to get him back without looking desperateBoyy problem :( just any cute advice or opinion im a teenager?
he probably took you shrugging that invite off a sign that you dont like him..
try being the one that starts the conversation instead of leaving it to him.. just to know that youre some what interested.
you can make yourself look available, with out looking desperate
my biggest piece of advice is to not talk to him on msn. talk in person.. or at least over the phone.
ask him what he likes to do and then be like no way, that would be so much fun, can you teach me??
(like if its baseball or guitar)
then hold him to it. it would be a fun little hang out.. casual, gives you the chance to flirt with him, and there wont be any awkward silences if you cant think of anything to say because youll be doing something instead of just sitting there
and do a little something extra like bring him cookies :]
he'll like it.
after you put yourself out there a little bit, act less interested so he can chase you a little.. but casually tell him things like ';wow that shirt looks cute on you'; or ';did you get a hair cut?.. huh, well your hair looks really good today';
then when he starts to sound like he's interested again and youre pretty sure he likes you start to act like you like him back so he wont loose interestBoyy problem :( just any cute advice or opinion im a teenager?
Just say ';Hi'; to him every once in a while on msn. Then he will gradually start to talk to you again and you will be in the same position as before. As for chickening out at the last minute, you were probably just nervous. If you hang out more the nerves will go away.
If he's not initiating conversation, you do it. For instance, if you see him online on MSN then just say ';Hey. How you're doing? How's your holidays?';
Just start a casual conversation. Don't push him into it.
you should prob just tell him da truth or tht you were nervous because if u leave it for too long he might get more n more angry. he probably think tht u ditched him and feel annoyed at you for tht so tell him you were just nervous n he should forgive u... i would.
he probably felt rejected..the best thing to do is try to talk to him and ask him why he hasnt been talking to you. chances are he'll give you a straight answer ....
good luck!!
try to make an effort to be friendly and initiate conversation. if he still doesnt pick up on that and return the attention, then he's not worth it.
well tell him how you feel fast. The more you don't say anything the less of a chance you'll have to get him....
then start talking to him, make some moves :)
he probably took you shrugging that invite off a sign that you dont like him..
try being the one that starts the conversation instead of leaving it to him.. just to know that youre some what interested.
you can make yourself look available, with out looking desperate
my biggest piece of advice is to not talk to him on msn. talk in person.. or at least over the phone.
ask him what he likes to do and then be like no way, that would be so much fun, can you teach me??
(like if its baseball or guitar)
then hold him to it. it would be a fun little hang out.. casual, gives you the chance to flirt with him, and there wont be any awkward silences if you cant think of anything to say because youll be doing something instead of just sitting there
and do a little something extra like bring him cookies :]
he'll like it.
after you put yourself out there a little bit, act less interested so he can chase you a little.. but casually tell him things like ';wow that shirt looks cute on you'; or ';did you get a hair cut?.. huh, well your hair looks really good today';
then when he starts to sound like he's interested again and youre pretty sure he likes you start to act like you like him back so he wont loose interestBoyy problem :( just any cute advice or opinion im a teenager?
Just say ';Hi'; to him every once in a while on msn. Then he will gradually start to talk to you again and you will be in the same position as before. As for chickening out at the last minute, you were probably just nervous. If you hang out more the nerves will go away.
If he's not initiating conversation, you do it. For instance, if you see him online on MSN then just say ';Hey. How you're doing? How's your holidays?';
Just start a casual conversation. Don't push him into it.
you should prob just tell him da truth or tht you were nervous because if u leave it for too long he might get more n more angry. he probably think tht u ditched him and feel annoyed at you for tht so tell him you were just nervous n he should forgive u... i would.
he probably felt rejected..the best thing to do is try to talk to him and ask him why he hasnt been talking to you. chances are he'll give you a straight answer ....
good luck!!
try to make an effort to be friendly and initiate conversation. if he still doesnt pick up on that and return the attention, then he's not worth it.
well tell him how you feel fast. The more you don't say anything the less of a chance you'll have to get him....
then start talking to him, make some moves :)
Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
So I asked this girl out. She was so excited, told me she was so happy i asked her and that it meant a lot to her. Made her feel special.
Then the day of the date rolled around and she completely played me first by keeping my hopes up allllll the way till the last minute and then ignoring me. I sent 2 texts and called her 3 times (The last two times I just called to leave a voicemail, but kept getting disconnected, so I had to call again). I told her that I didn't like what she did and that she should explain to me why. We do know each other for a while now and things have changed a lot between us for the better and she had been leaving me hints all over the place that she wanted me.
She got issues, and for some unknown reasons it just keeps reminding me of myself, like I got similar issues, and I know when something like this happens, im usually pretty scared and stuff.
So its today now and still no response. I don't want to be stuck on this, but I feel that if I don't END it, I will keep trying to figure WHY she did this, and WHY she won't talk to me. I mean we became pretty damn close, its not like im some regular dude that just came out of nowhere, we built up trust between each other since we both have severe trust issues and stuff.
Should I text her this?
';is this where we part ways and right before christmas? after all this... why the sudden change? i had high hopes, and still do... you dont have to be scared or embarassed, just honest with me. i think your really amazing, but you couldn't care less about that... i always treated you with respect so i know i didnt do anything. i suppose i got my answer ill leave you be.';
Is that good?Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
Don't text or call anymore period !!! It will only annoy her. If it's meant to be,she'll contact you with a good explanation I'm sure.
Maybe she is afraid dating you could ruin the friendship
Hang in there and good luck!!!Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
you should talk to her and ask her why she did this if she just shrugs end it you deserve someone that adores instead of ignores you
Get Back To Me
Good Luck
That sounds good. I sure hope everything works out. Good Luck, and keep your chin up because things will get better, maybe not with her but someone who is more appreciative of you.
good boy
send her that
it sounds good =)
%26amp; good luck, dont get your heart broken
That's great. If I were you, I'd go up to her and ask her what's going on.
u can do better
the first part of the message is very mature and nice but when it comes to
';so i know i didnt do anything. i suppose i got my answer ill leave you be';
kind of mean
you should say
'; i always treated you with respect and i was hoping you would respect me back by telling me what you think';
in my opinion of course
hope this helps
Sounds like she is playing a game. My rule is if they play games, play harder. It's annoying but entertaining in the least. Ignore her. DO NOT MAKE ANY ATTEMPT TO CONTACT HER! Give it a few days to a week and she will get in touch with you. Do not respond right away and act like it was no big deal! Have Fun! If you don't want to play games I suggest you court another gal!
She just does not want you. Thats the real deal. I was talking to a guy who treated me right, respected me, but I admit I was just bored and he was spending money on me. I didn't love him, though I didn't mind being around him. I know that I led him on. It was a good feeling to me knowing that someone wanted me and I had them in the palm of my hand. I just knew that I would never, ever be with this guy for the rest of my life. Some people come in your life just for a moment, and for a reason. Not everyone is supposed to stay. He calls every other day to this day and I don't pick up the phone. Call me a *****, but it's funny. I've been hurt by plenty guys. They do it all the time. It's our turn.
Every time you contact her you are doing it with the belief and the desire that she will reply, even when you make comments like...I'll leave you be. Then you will be disappointed when she doesn't. So why torture yourself. You have contacted her several times already. She has made no effort to answer you. She has your number. She knows where you live. I'm sure she has your IM too. Why give her another opportunity to reject you again. If you did nothing wrong, accept that she has issues, (that are not your problem) and let her go. If and when she is ready to behave like a decent human being she will give you the courtesy of an explanation. Sometimes you just have to get closure by yourself but stop wasting one more minute of your time on someone that obviously has not respect for you at all. You deserve better. She deserves nothing from you.
its kinda odd that she didn't reply to you. but maybe an emergency happened at the last minute and she couldn't make it. but since your close friends, just confront her and tell her how you feel. im a girl and it would be a bit harsh to get a text saying what you wrote. talk to her face to face and tell her exactly whats on your mind.
It depends whether you're scared that she's not talking to you or upset because she won't make love to you, but understand she has trust issues too. Wait for her and see it through if you love her. You could send her that text just minus the ';I'll leave you be'; bit just to see how she feels or if something happened that made her not respond. If she answers with a ';I don't like you'; or just doesn't answer you for a couple solid weeks then break it off with her.acne
Then the day of the date rolled around and she completely played me first by keeping my hopes up allllll the way till the last minute and then ignoring me. I sent 2 texts and called her 3 times (The last two times I just called to leave a voicemail, but kept getting disconnected, so I had to call again). I told her that I didn't like what she did and that she should explain to me why. We do know each other for a while now and things have changed a lot between us for the better and she had been leaving me hints all over the place that she wanted me.
She got issues, and for some unknown reasons it just keeps reminding me of myself, like I got similar issues, and I know when something like this happens, im usually pretty scared and stuff.
So its today now and still no response. I don't want to be stuck on this, but I feel that if I don't END it, I will keep trying to figure WHY she did this, and WHY she won't talk to me. I mean we became pretty damn close, its not like im some regular dude that just came out of nowhere, we built up trust between each other since we both have severe trust issues and stuff.
Should I text her this?
';is this where we part ways and right before christmas? after all this... why the sudden change? i had high hopes, and still do... you dont have to be scared or embarassed, just honest with me. i think your really amazing, but you couldn't care less about that... i always treated you with respect so i know i didnt do anything. i suppose i got my answer ill leave you be.';
Is that good?Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
Don't text or call anymore period !!! It will only annoy her. If it's meant to be,she'll contact you with a good explanation I'm sure.
Maybe she is afraid dating you could ruin the friendship
Hang in there and good luck!!!Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
you should talk to her and ask her why she did this if she just shrugs end it you deserve someone that adores instead of ignores you
Get Back To Me
Good Luck
That sounds good. I sure hope everything works out. Good Luck, and keep your chin up because things will get better, maybe not with her but someone who is more appreciative of you.
good boy
send her that
it sounds good =)
%26amp; good luck, dont get your heart broken
That's great. If I were you, I'd go up to her and ask her what's going on.
u can do better
the first part of the message is very mature and nice but when it comes to
';so i know i didnt do anything. i suppose i got my answer ill leave you be';
kind of mean
you should say
'; i always treated you with respect and i was hoping you would respect me back by telling me what you think';
in my opinion of course
hope this helps
Sounds like she is playing a game. My rule is if they play games, play harder. It's annoying but entertaining in the least. Ignore her. DO NOT MAKE ANY ATTEMPT TO CONTACT HER! Give it a few days to a week and she will get in touch with you. Do not respond right away and act like it was no big deal! Have Fun! If you don't want to play games I suggest you court another gal!
She just does not want you. Thats the real deal. I was talking to a guy who treated me right, respected me, but I admit I was just bored and he was spending money on me. I didn't love him, though I didn't mind being around him. I know that I led him on. It was a good feeling to me knowing that someone wanted me and I had them in the palm of my hand. I just knew that I would never, ever be with this guy for the rest of my life. Some people come in your life just for a moment, and for a reason. Not everyone is supposed to stay. He calls every other day to this day and I don't pick up the phone. Call me a *****, but it's funny. I've been hurt by plenty guys. They do it all the time. It's our turn.
Every time you contact her you are doing it with the belief and the desire that she will reply, even when you make comments like...I'll leave you be. Then you will be disappointed when she doesn't. So why torture yourself. You have contacted her several times already. She has made no effort to answer you. She has your number. She knows where you live. I'm sure she has your IM too. Why give her another opportunity to reject you again. If you did nothing wrong, accept that she has issues, (that are not your problem) and let her go. If and when she is ready to behave like a decent human being she will give you the courtesy of an explanation. Sometimes you just have to get closure by yourself but stop wasting one more minute of your time on someone that obviously has not respect for you at all. You deserve better. She deserves nothing from you.
its kinda odd that she didn't reply to you. but maybe an emergency happened at the last minute and she couldn't make it. but since your close friends, just confront her and tell her how you feel. im a girl and it would be a bit harsh to get a text saying what you wrote. talk to her face to face and tell her exactly whats on your mind.
It depends whether you're scared that she's not talking to you or upset because she won't make love to you, but understand she has trust issues too. Wait for her and see it through if you love her. You could send her that text just minus the ';I'll leave you be'; bit just to see how she feels or if something happened that made her not respond. If she answers with a ';I don't like you'; or just doesn't answer you for a couple solid weeks then break it off with her.
Girl problem...!! i need girls advice(men 2 i guess)?
ok there is this very pretty girl that is my age...were both 13...we txt alote,we talk to eachother alote 2. she likes to fwrd these txt to me like, lets play love tag, or, if you were to never see me again what would be the last thing you would remember about me...or...you have one free ticket to ask me any question and i have to tell the truth, or a bunch of best friend stuff...she thinks im sweet,nice, and kinda cute...i dont know if she likes me enough to go out...or just to be friends...:(please give me advice and answers...Girl problem...!! i need girls advice(men 2 i guess)?
13 huh! focus on school son!
13 huh! focus on school son!
Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
So I asked this girl out. She was so excited, told me she was so happy i asked her and that it meant a lot to her. Made her feel special.
Then the day of the date rolled around and she completely played me first by keeping my hopes up allllll the way till the last minute and then ignoring me. I sent 2 texts and called her 3 times (The last two times I just called to leave a voicemail, but kept getting disconnected, so I had to call again). I told her that I didn't like what she did and that she should explain to me why. We do know each other for a while now and things have changed a lot between us for the better and she had been leaving me hints all over the place that she wanted me.
She got issues, and for some unknown reasons it just keeps reminding me of myself, like I got similar issues, and I know when something like this happens, im usually pretty scared and stuff.
So its today now and still no response. I don't want to be stuck on this, but I feel that if I don't END it, I will keep trying to figure WHY she did this, and WHY she won't talk to me. I mean we became pretty damn close, its not like im some regular dude that just came out of nowhere, we built up trust between each other since we both have severe trust issues and stuff.
Should I text her this?
';is this where we part ways and right before christmas? after all this... why the sudden change? i had high hopes, and still do... you dont have to be scared or embarassed, just honest with me. i think your really amazing, but you couldn't care less about that... i always treated you with respect so i know i didnt do anything. i suppose i got my answer ill leave you be.';
Is that good?Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
Don't text or call anymore period !!! It will only annoy her. If it's meant to be,she'll contact you with a good explanation I'm sure.
Maybe she is afraid dating you could ruin the friendship
Hang in there and good luck!!!Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
you should talk to her and ask her why she did this if she just shrugs end it you deserve someone that adores instead of ignores you
Get Back To Me
Good Luck
That sounds good. I sure hope everything works out. Good Luck, and keep your chin up because things will get better, maybe not with her but someone who is more appreciative of you.
good boy
send her that
it sounds good =)
%26amp; good luck, dont get your heart broken
That's great. If I were you, I'd go up to her and ask her what's going on.
u can do better
the first part of the message is very mature and nice but when it comes to
';so i know i didnt do anything. i suppose i got my answer ill leave you be';
kind of mean
you should say
'; i always treated you with respect and i was hoping you would respect me back by telling me what you think';
in my opinion of course
hope this helps
Sounds like she is playing a game. My rule is if they play games, play harder. It's annoying but entertaining in the least. Ignore her. DO NOT MAKE ANY ATTEMPT TO CONTACT HER! Give it a few days to a week and she will get in touch with you. Do not respond right away and act like it was no big deal! Have Fun! If you don't want to play games I suggest you court another gal!
She just does not want you. Thats the real deal. I was talking to a guy who treated me right, respected me, but I admit I was just bored and he was spending money on me. I didn't love him, though I didn't mind being around him. I know that I led him on. It was a good feeling to me knowing that someone wanted me and I had them in the palm of my hand. I just knew that I would never, ever be with this guy for the rest of my life. Some people come in your life just for a moment, and for a reason. Not everyone is supposed to stay. He calls every other day to this day and I don't pick up the phone. Call me a *****, but it's funny. I've been hurt by plenty guys. They do it all the time. It's our turn.
Every time you contact her you are doing it with the belief and the desire that she will reply, even when you make comments like...I'll leave you be. Then you will be disappointed when she doesn't. So why torture yourself. You have contacted her several times already. She has made no effort to answer you. She has your number. She knows where you live. I'm sure she has your IM too. Why give her another opportunity to reject you again. If you did nothing wrong, accept that she has issues, (that are not your problem) and let her go. If and when she is ready to behave like a decent human being she will give you the courtesy of an explanation. Sometimes you just have to get closure by yourself but stop wasting one more minute of your time on someone that obviously has not respect for you at all. You deserve better. She deserves nothing from you.
its kinda odd that she didn't reply to you. but maybe an emergency happened at the last minute and she couldn't make it. but since your close friends, just confront her and tell her how you feel. im a girl and it would be a bit harsh to get a text saying what you wrote. talk to her face to face and tell her exactly whats on your mind.
It depends whether you're scared that she's not talking to you or upset because she won't make love to you, but understand she has trust issues too. Wait for her and see it through if you love her. You could send her that text just minus the ';I'll leave you be'; bit just to see how she feels or if something happened that made her not respond. If she answers with a ';I don't like you'; or just doesn't answer you for a couple solid weeks then break it off with her.
Then the day of the date rolled around and she completely played me first by keeping my hopes up allllll the way till the last minute and then ignoring me. I sent 2 texts and called her 3 times (The last two times I just called to leave a voicemail, but kept getting disconnected, so I had to call again). I told her that I didn't like what she did and that she should explain to me why. We do know each other for a while now and things have changed a lot between us for the better and she had been leaving me hints all over the place that she wanted me.
She got issues, and for some unknown reasons it just keeps reminding me of myself, like I got similar issues, and I know when something like this happens, im usually pretty scared and stuff.
So its today now and still no response. I don't want to be stuck on this, but I feel that if I don't END it, I will keep trying to figure WHY she did this, and WHY she won't talk to me. I mean we became pretty damn close, its not like im some regular dude that just came out of nowhere, we built up trust between each other since we both have severe trust issues and stuff.
Should I text her this?
';is this where we part ways and right before christmas? after all this... why the sudden change? i had high hopes, and still do... you dont have to be scared or embarassed, just honest with me. i think your really amazing, but you couldn't care less about that... i always treated you with respect so i know i didnt do anything. i suppose i got my answer ill leave you be.';
Is that good?Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
Don't text or call anymore period !!! It will only annoy her. If it's meant to be,she'll contact you with a good explanation I'm sure.
Maybe she is afraid dating you could ruin the friendship
Hang in there and good luck!!!Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
you should talk to her and ask her why she did this if she just shrugs end it you deserve someone that adores instead of ignores you
Get Back To Me
Good Luck
That sounds good. I sure hope everything works out. Good Luck, and keep your chin up because things will get better, maybe not with her but someone who is more appreciative of you.
good boy
send her that
it sounds good =)
%26amp; good luck, dont get your heart broken
That's great. If I were you, I'd go up to her and ask her what's going on.
u can do better
the first part of the message is very mature and nice but when it comes to
';so i know i didnt do anything. i suppose i got my answer ill leave you be';
kind of mean
you should say
'; i always treated you with respect and i was hoping you would respect me back by telling me what you think';
in my opinion of course
hope this helps
Sounds like she is playing a game. My rule is if they play games, play harder. It's annoying but entertaining in the least. Ignore her. DO NOT MAKE ANY ATTEMPT TO CONTACT HER! Give it a few days to a week and she will get in touch with you. Do not respond right away and act like it was no big deal! Have Fun! If you don't want to play games I suggest you court another gal!
She just does not want you. Thats the real deal. I was talking to a guy who treated me right, respected me, but I admit I was just bored and he was spending money on me. I didn't love him, though I didn't mind being around him. I know that I led him on. It was a good feeling to me knowing that someone wanted me and I had them in the palm of my hand. I just knew that I would never, ever be with this guy for the rest of my life. Some people come in your life just for a moment, and for a reason. Not everyone is supposed to stay. He calls every other day to this day and I don't pick up the phone. Call me a *****, but it's funny. I've been hurt by plenty guys. They do it all the time. It's our turn.
Every time you contact her you are doing it with the belief and the desire that she will reply, even when you make comments like...I'll leave you be. Then you will be disappointed when she doesn't. So why torture yourself. You have contacted her several times already. She has made no effort to answer you. She has your number. She knows where you live. I'm sure she has your IM too. Why give her another opportunity to reject you again. If you did nothing wrong, accept that she has issues, (that are not your problem) and let her go. If and when she is ready to behave like a decent human being she will give you the courtesy of an explanation. Sometimes you just have to get closure by yourself but stop wasting one more minute of your time on someone that obviously has not respect for you at all. You deserve better. She deserves nothing from you.
its kinda odd that she didn't reply to you. but maybe an emergency happened at the last minute and she couldn't make it. but since your close friends, just confront her and tell her how you feel. im a girl and it would be a bit harsh to get a text saying what you wrote. talk to her face to face and tell her exactly whats on your mind.
It depends whether you're scared that she's not talking to you or upset because she won't make love to you, but understand she has trust issues too. Wait for her and see it through if you love her. You could send her that text just minus the ';I'll leave you be'; bit just to see how she feels or if something happened that made her not respond. If she answers with a ';I don't like you'; or just doesn't answer you for a couple solid weeks then break it off with her.
Friend Problem?!i need some advice...?
hi!
okay..i`m new in this JAPANESE SCHOOL and i still can`t speak perfect Japanese and only this girl is trying so hard to talk to me and i can really understand her i think we have some connections or something were really compatible to be friend but she has a BEST FRIEND at the start it is really fine with me but i noticed that every time they see or talk they're ignoring me like i`m LOST and i look like an idiot looking at them talking.for me her BEST FRIEND is really nice but i think i`m being selfish right?!i`m really jealous every time my new friend talk about her BEST FRIEND i just hate it....what should i do should i just avoid my friend because she already have a best friend?!!!
i really appreciate all the advice..
sorry for my wrong grammar..THANKS!^3^Friend Problem?!i need some advice...?
Wow that must be really hard.Maybe ask the friend you have to come over to your house and give you help in learning the language,that might make it easier for you to talk to both your friend AND her best friend.They probably feel awkward because they dont know what to say to you as your not fluent in the language.that must be pretty upsetting for you.You Will make friends though,it will just take time.If they aren't including you,then you should look around for other people who you could talk to and hang out with.you might find that there is someone else who will be more understanding that you cant speak the language very well.Friend Problem?!i need some advice...?
try to hang out with them but tell them (in Japanese) that you're new and they need to talk really slowly around you. if they don't like you or ignore you then maybe you should get some other friends and keep them as casual friends. :)
i don't think you should avoid her just because she has a best friend, but you should ask her why she acts different around her friend.
ARE YOU GAY?
okay..i`m new in this JAPANESE SCHOOL and i still can`t speak perfect Japanese and only this girl is trying so hard to talk to me and i can really understand her i think we have some connections or something were really compatible to be friend but she has a BEST FRIEND at the start it is really fine with me but i noticed that every time they see or talk they're ignoring me like i`m LOST and i look like an idiot looking at them talking.for me her BEST FRIEND is really nice but i think i`m being selfish right?!i`m really jealous every time my new friend talk about her BEST FRIEND i just hate it....what should i do should i just avoid my friend because she already have a best friend?!!!
i really appreciate all the advice..
sorry for my wrong grammar..THANKS!^3^Friend Problem?!i need some advice...?
Wow that must be really hard.Maybe ask the friend you have to come over to your house and give you help in learning the language,that might make it easier for you to talk to both your friend AND her best friend.They probably feel awkward because they dont know what to say to you as your not fluent in the language.that must be pretty upsetting for you.You Will make friends though,it will just take time.If they aren't including you,then you should look around for other people who you could talk to and hang out with.you might find that there is someone else who will be more understanding that you cant speak the language very well.Friend Problem?!i need some advice...?
try to hang out with them but tell them (in Japanese) that you're new and they need to talk really slowly around you. if they don't like you or ignore you then maybe you should get some other friends and keep them as casual friends. :)
i don't think you should avoid her just because she has a best friend, but you should ask her why she acts different around her friend.
ARE YOU GAY?
Weight problem!!! please help - any advice welcome!!?
how much exercise do i need to do a week to make a significant impact on my weight? this is a big problem for me, and i think i'm misinterpreting just how much work this is going to be..
im not looking for a very quick fix - yeah that would be fab if any of you have anything that works?! but i doubt there's anything out there that isn't a bit of a scam. i realise the only proper way to lose weight is to eat less calories than i burn off, but how much exercise is needed for this?? thanks :)Weight problem!!! please help - any advice welcome!!?
Try to not eat that much. I used to eat alot even when I wasnt that hungry. Dont starve yourself though because that actually makes it worse because then when you do it, your body will try to obtain all the intake and that would make it worse. Not eating isnt the best thing to do is eat healthy and drink lots of water. Believe it or not, going on walks is really healthy and a good way to lose weight. It isnt asy, but if you eat healthy foods and exercise, that will definitelly help. Do eat though. Some people resort to not eating and it isnt smart. Best of luck and I know that you can do it sweety.
im not looking for a very quick fix - yeah that would be fab if any of you have anything that works?! but i doubt there's anything out there that isn't a bit of a scam. i realise the only proper way to lose weight is to eat less calories than i burn off, but how much exercise is needed for this?? thanks :)Weight problem!!! please help - any advice welcome!!?
Try to not eat that much. I used to eat alot even when I wasnt that hungry. Dont starve yourself though because that actually makes it worse because then when you do it, your body will try to obtain all the intake and that would make it worse. Not eating isnt the best thing to do is eat healthy and drink lots of water. Believe it or not, going on walks is really healthy and a good way to lose weight. It isnt asy, but if you eat healthy foods and exercise, that will definitelly help. Do eat though. Some people resort to not eating and it isnt smart. Best of luck and I know that you can do it sweety.
Sleeping problem with my toddler.. advice?
I have a 19month old son who goes to sleep in his crib at 8pm. Only problem is he won't fall asleep unless i'm in the room with him, then once he falls asleep I go to bed shortly after because he's up again at 12am. What could be waking him up? I'm almost 8 months pregnant and too tired to keep getting up and sitting in his room till he falls asleep, I've been letting him sleep in our bed once he gets up at 12 or 2 because he sleeps the rest of the night there. How do I get him to sleep all night? This is going to be annoying once our little girl arrives and she's in our room in the bassinett and we still have our toddler coming into bed? I need him to stay in his crib... how do I do this without him crying?Sleeping problem with my toddler.. advice?
Hi.
I think the reason he is waking at the same time each night must be out of habit - he has learnt to wake at that time as he knows he will then be able to go in to your bed with you, how lovely for him! Children will naturally wake in the night from their sleep cycles and usually go back to sleep but will continue a pattern of waking if their waking has been reinforced in some way (mum/dad rushing in, offering a bottle, taking him to your bed etc.).
When he wakes up at that time, instead of taking him to your bed, you have to teach him to resettle on his own. I'd start with the beginning of bedtime - he is used to you being there with him to fall asleep which is fine, and I'm not sure how you do this now, but if you stay quietly beside his bed seated on a chair without making any contact this would help him learn to settle by himself. As he gets better at it you can gradually move the chair away from him until you can leave him on his own completely. Another way is to try some controlled crying - after you have left his room and he cries, go back to comfort him with a cuddle/pat/shhhh and then leave again. Keep repeating this process as long as it takes for him to settle and gradually increase the amount of time you leave him (start off with no more than a couple of minutes and work from there on making it longer). This method works if you stick to it and usually takes a few days. Do this with him in the night also when he wakes and hopefully the night waking will eventually cease. Don't let him back in your bed either as you will end up right back at square one.
It will definitely be tiring and I sympathise with you as I had sleep problems with my son (now aged 2) whilst pregnant and after my now 14 month old came along and I was totally exhausted. Something I found really helpful was ';The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems'; by Tracey Hogg - really useful practical information and easy to read.
Best of luck.
Mum of 1 and 2 year old boys and former early childhood educator.Sleeping problem with my toddler.. advice?
Can he get out of his crib by himself? If so then it's time for a toddler bed. As for the sleeping let him cry it out. It's the only way. I did this when my son was 12 months since I was having my 2nd in 3 month. He cried for about 2 weeks for like an hour before falling asleep. He would wake up in the middle of the night, cry and go back to sleep. Now he goes to bed at 8pm and sleeps all night until 8am.
Yeah, he's going to cry. He'll keep doing this until he realizes you're not going to come and get him. It's not going to hurt him if you teach him to sleep through the night. He's old enough to figure out you just want him to sleep. Try to use the Ferber method. It's the best one for you and baby. And if you're not ready to do it before the next baby comes, you surely will be once it's here. Good luck.
If he doesn't fall asleep by himself, then he can't put himself back down without you either. Make a happy, loving routine that ends with you leaving him alone in his crib and stick to it. It takes 3-4 consistant nights to change a sleep habit, so get ready.
Also, try a nightime diaper, like Huggies overnights. They helped my little man wake up less. Good luck!
You can't, he's going to cry and it won't be pleasant, but when he wakes up at night, don't take him out of his crib and put him in your bed. Go in and make sure that he is dry, warm, not hungry and then have him lay back down. Rub his back, sing softly to him, talk with him, but DON'T pick him up and don't put him in your bed. You are not allowing him to learn to comfort himself. I was having problems with my daughter doing this and was told to do this and it really worked. It was miserable for a few nights because she did not want to stay in her own bed and would cry and get angry. But after a few nights, she got the idea. I would hear her wake up and she would lay in her crib and talk and sing to herself and her stuffed critters and pretty soon she was fast asleep. It won't hurt him to cry some, kids cry, its just a fact of life. Suck it up mom and be strong.
Give him something to keep him warm, like oatmeal it is very filling, and I use it as a snack brfore bed, like 4 spoon fulls... my daughter loves it~
wow, thats bad on u, anyways just give him time he is just a kid and it happedn like this all the time.
I feel for you try and make his room comfortabl and inviting,try telling him before he goes to sleep that he should stay in his own bed tonight
read him a bedtime story maybe 2 books and then turn on cartoons for him and explain to him that it's really time for him to go to sleep and that you need him to stay in his crib
Hi.
I think the reason he is waking at the same time each night must be out of habit - he has learnt to wake at that time as he knows he will then be able to go in to your bed with you, how lovely for him! Children will naturally wake in the night from their sleep cycles and usually go back to sleep but will continue a pattern of waking if their waking has been reinforced in some way (mum/dad rushing in, offering a bottle, taking him to your bed etc.).
When he wakes up at that time, instead of taking him to your bed, you have to teach him to resettle on his own. I'd start with the beginning of bedtime - he is used to you being there with him to fall asleep which is fine, and I'm not sure how you do this now, but if you stay quietly beside his bed seated on a chair without making any contact this would help him learn to settle by himself. As he gets better at it you can gradually move the chair away from him until you can leave him on his own completely. Another way is to try some controlled crying - after you have left his room and he cries, go back to comfort him with a cuddle/pat/shhhh and then leave again. Keep repeating this process as long as it takes for him to settle and gradually increase the amount of time you leave him (start off with no more than a couple of minutes and work from there on making it longer). This method works if you stick to it and usually takes a few days. Do this with him in the night also when he wakes and hopefully the night waking will eventually cease. Don't let him back in your bed either as you will end up right back at square one.
It will definitely be tiring and I sympathise with you as I had sleep problems with my son (now aged 2) whilst pregnant and after my now 14 month old came along and I was totally exhausted. Something I found really helpful was ';The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems'; by Tracey Hogg - really useful practical information and easy to read.
Best of luck.
Mum of 1 and 2 year old boys and former early childhood educator.Sleeping problem with my toddler.. advice?
Can he get out of his crib by himself? If so then it's time for a toddler bed. As for the sleeping let him cry it out. It's the only way. I did this when my son was 12 months since I was having my 2nd in 3 month. He cried for about 2 weeks for like an hour before falling asleep. He would wake up in the middle of the night, cry and go back to sleep. Now he goes to bed at 8pm and sleeps all night until 8am.
Yeah, he's going to cry. He'll keep doing this until he realizes you're not going to come and get him. It's not going to hurt him if you teach him to sleep through the night. He's old enough to figure out you just want him to sleep. Try to use the Ferber method. It's the best one for you and baby. And if you're not ready to do it before the next baby comes, you surely will be once it's here. Good luck.
If he doesn't fall asleep by himself, then he can't put himself back down without you either. Make a happy, loving routine that ends with you leaving him alone in his crib and stick to it. It takes 3-4 consistant nights to change a sleep habit, so get ready.
Also, try a nightime diaper, like Huggies overnights. They helped my little man wake up less. Good luck!
You can't, he's going to cry and it won't be pleasant, but when he wakes up at night, don't take him out of his crib and put him in your bed. Go in and make sure that he is dry, warm, not hungry and then have him lay back down. Rub his back, sing softly to him, talk with him, but DON'T pick him up and don't put him in your bed. You are not allowing him to learn to comfort himself. I was having problems with my daughter doing this and was told to do this and it really worked. It was miserable for a few nights because she did not want to stay in her own bed and would cry and get angry. But after a few nights, she got the idea. I would hear her wake up and she would lay in her crib and talk and sing to herself and her stuffed critters and pretty soon she was fast asleep. It won't hurt him to cry some, kids cry, its just a fact of life. Suck it up mom and be strong.
Give him something to keep him warm, like oatmeal it is very filling, and I use it as a snack brfore bed, like 4 spoon fulls... my daughter loves it~
wow, thats bad on u, anyways just give him time he is just a kid and it happedn like this all the time.
I feel for you try and make his room comfortabl and inviting,try telling him before he goes to sleep that he should stay in his own bed tonight
read him a bedtime story maybe 2 books and then turn on cartoons for him and explain to him that it's really time for him to go to sleep and that you need him to stay in his crib
Boyy problem :( just any cute advice or opinion im a teenager?
i reallly like this guy. he's fun to hang around with and he's really cool and everything.at first we were like good friends but then both of us (without saying so) knew that we wanted more. so we would like sit alone and talk and we'd always greet each other. he always made cute comments like o you have beautiful eyes and he'd joke around being like o the guys check you out cuz your hot and everything. we never officially went out but in our youth group (where we met) we would spend time just the both of us. a few weeks ago he asked ';since its the holidays, we should hang out sometime.'; i dont know what was wrong with me but i was like ';oh i dont know well see.if i have the time because god knows whats gonna happen to me'; he thinks i have no guy friends(or boyfriends) so i assume he doesnt think im going out but im inexperienced and just chickened out. for the last few weeks he doesnt greet me and on msn and stuff he never talks to me. i want to get him back without looking desperateBoyy problem :( just any cute advice or opinion im a teenager?
he probably took you shrugging that invite off a sign that you dont like him..
try being the one that starts the conversation instead of leaving it to him.. just to know that youre some what interested.
you can make yourself look available, with out looking desperate
my biggest piece of advice is to not talk to him on msn. talk in person.. or at least over the phone.
ask him what he likes to do and then be like no way, that would be so much fun, can you teach me??
(like if its baseball or guitar)
then hold him to it. it would be a fun little hang out.. casual, gives you the chance to flirt with him, and there wont be any awkward silences if you cant think of anything to say because youll be doing something instead of just sitting there
and do a little something extra like bring him cookies :]
he'll like it.
after you put yourself out there a little bit, act less interested so he can chase you a little.. but casually tell him things like ';wow that shirt looks cute on you'; or ';did you get a hair cut?.. huh, well your hair looks really good today';
then when he starts to sound like he's interested again and youre pretty sure he likes you start to act like you like him back so he wont loose interestBoyy problem :( just any cute advice or opinion im a teenager?
Just say ';Hi'; to him every once in a while on msn. Then he will gradually start to talk to you again and you will be in the same position as before. As for chickening out at the last minute, you were probably just nervous. If you hang out more the nerves will go away.
If he's not initiating conversation, you do it. For instance, if you see him online on MSN then just say ';Hey. How you're doing? How's your holidays?';
Just start a casual conversation. Don't push him into it.
you should prob just tell him da truth or tht you were nervous because if u leave it for too long he might get more n more angry. he probably think tht u ditched him and feel annoyed at you for tht so tell him you were just nervous n he should forgive u... i would.
he probably felt rejected..the best thing to do is try to talk to him and ask him why he hasnt been talking to you. chances are he'll give you a straight answer ....
good luck!!
try to make an effort to be friendly and initiate conversation. if he still doesnt pick up on that and return the attention, then he's not worth it.
well tell him how you feel fast. The more you don't say anything the less of a chance you'll have to get him....
then start talking to him, make some moves :)acne
he probably took you shrugging that invite off a sign that you dont like him..
try being the one that starts the conversation instead of leaving it to him.. just to know that youre some what interested.
you can make yourself look available, with out looking desperate
my biggest piece of advice is to not talk to him on msn. talk in person.. or at least over the phone.
ask him what he likes to do and then be like no way, that would be so much fun, can you teach me??
(like if its baseball or guitar)
then hold him to it. it would be a fun little hang out.. casual, gives you the chance to flirt with him, and there wont be any awkward silences if you cant think of anything to say because youll be doing something instead of just sitting there
and do a little something extra like bring him cookies :]
he'll like it.
after you put yourself out there a little bit, act less interested so he can chase you a little.. but casually tell him things like ';wow that shirt looks cute on you'; or ';did you get a hair cut?.. huh, well your hair looks really good today';
then when he starts to sound like he's interested again and youre pretty sure he likes you start to act like you like him back so he wont loose interestBoyy problem :( just any cute advice or opinion im a teenager?
Just say ';Hi'; to him every once in a while on msn. Then he will gradually start to talk to you again and you will be in the same position as before. As for chickening out at the last minute, you were probably just nervous. If you hang out more the nerves will go away.
If he's not initiating conversation, you do it. For instance, if you see him online on MSN then just say ';Hey. How you're doing? How's your holidays?';
Just start a casual conversation. Don't push him into it.
you should prob just tell him da truth or tht you were nervous because if u leave it for too long he might get more n more angry. he probably think tht u ditched him and feel annoyed at you for tht so tell him you were just nervous n he should forgive u... i would.
he probably felt rejected..the best thing to do is try to talk to him and ask him why he hasnt been talking to you. chances are he'll give you a straight answer ....
good luck!!
try to make an effort to be friendly and initiate conversation. if he still doesnt pick up on that and return the attention, then he's not worth it.
well tell him how you feel fast. The more you don't say anything the less of a chance you'll have to get him....
then start talking to him, make some moves :)
Girl problem...!! i need girls advice(men 2 i guess)?
ok there is this very pretty girl that is my age...were both 13...we txt alote,we talk to eachother alote 2. she likes to fwrd these txt to me like, lets play love tag, or, if you were to never see me again what would be the last thing you would remember about me...or...you have one free ticket to ask me any question and i have to tell the truth, or a bunch of best friend stuff...she thinks im sweet,nice, and kinda cute...i dont know if she likes me enough to go out...or just to be friends...:(please give me advice and answers...Girl problem...!! i need girls advice(men 2 i guess)?
13 huh! focus on school son!
13 huh! focus on school son!
Friend problem I need some advice!!?
Alright well I am 16, my best friend Staci is 18, and her boyfriend Nate is 19....
Anyways Nate thinks me and him are best friends but really I can't stand him. I don't know why either, he is really nice his family is really nice but he just annoys me.
Well Nathan and Staci ALWAYS invite me places. When I do go it is wierd, I am like the 3rd wheel or something. I think they only bring me along to make fun of me beacuse otherwise they would be bored.
Then I am like the go between between Nate and Staci. Staci dosen't have internet and I will be talking to Nate online and he will be like lets go bowling firday, will you call staci and ask her. I am like call her yourself shes your gf hes like will you please call her. So I call her and she has to ask and everything and then nate is always bugging me and hes like so what are our plans... I DK call staci yourself.
Then ok I have myspace open and he will IM me on there, I am like I can't talk, then he kept bugging me so I had to go offline for the IM, then he messages me and is like we can talk on Yahoo! messenger if you want I am like UGH so I didn't even sign on Yahoo! messenger. And then he messages me on this other site. Like ok I obviously don't want to talk to you right now leave me alone.
And then there s the stupid jokes. I will be talking to him and I will be like ok so what time are you picking us up, he will be like I can't I broke my arm, am like oh im sorry, he will be like jk.
Ok so I was telling my dad all of this and my dad says I should just tell him I don't want to talk to him anymore and that I am tired of being a go between and being used as there joke. That sounds like a really mean thing to do though =( and I don't want to be mean. So what should I do? Thanks!!Friend problem I need some advice!!?
Like Billy said, bring someone else along. And if you want, just break off. Tell Nate AND Staci that you don't want to be their thrid wheel, and that you're tired of being the go between. It's not so much that it's mean, but you can do it in a polite way. Like saying, ';Staci, I think Nate is nice and all, but I'm tired of being a third wheel on your dates. I'm really tired of being made fun of...'; And just go on from there. Don't just say, ';I hate that I'm yours and Nate's go between, and I'm sick and tired of being made fun of!'; Nothing like that. Just ask Staci to see if Nate will cool off, and just have her call him. And if he keeps bothering you, say ';I'm not Staci's babysitter, go find her yourself.'; If Staci gets mad, tell her how you've been feeling. If she's really your best friend, I'm sure she'd understand.Friend problem I need some advice!!?
You should bring a guy next time they invite you somewhere. Nate will back off to give you two room and you won't feel like a third wheel, problem solved!
-Billy
Shouldn't this be in the ';Family relationship'; section?
Well, try to bring a date next time. Don;t go with them everytme. And tell Nate to layoff. IDK,start ignoring him.
Really i would help but the story line is to long.
yeah, shouldn't this also be in the friend section?
鈥ell you can tell your friend that you are tired of being the 3rd wheel of their relationship and tell nate that you don't want to be the go between girl for HIS relationship.
鈥f your sick of the jokes that they always make on you when you're all hanging out tell them that you have had enough of them making fun of you.
鈥onestly, i wouldnt do what your dad suggested because it might bring up some drama with your best friend since he is her boyfriend. sadly, it is a very common thing.
hopefully i helped, if only a little bit.
contact me if you wanna chat more....mac193@yahoo.com
Anyways Nate thinks me and him are best friends but really I can't stand him. I don't know why either, he is really nice his family is really nice but he just annoys me.
Well Nathan and Staci ALWAYS invite me places. When I do go it is wierd, I am like the 3rd wheel or something. I think they only bring me along to make fun of me beacuse otherwise they would be bored.
Then I am like the go between between Nate and Staci. Staci dosen't have internet and I will be talking to Nate online and he will be like lets go bowling firday, will you call staci and ask her. I am like call her yourself shes your gf hes like will you please call her. So I call her and she has to ask and everything and then nate is always bugging me and hes like so what are our plans... I DK call staci yourself.
Then ok I have myspace open and he will IM me on there, I am like I can't talk, then he kept bugging me so I had to go offline for the IM, then he messages me and is like we can talk on Yahoo! messenger if you want I am like UGH so I didn't even sign on Yahoo! messenger. And then he messages me on this other site. Like ok I obviously don't want to talk to you right now leave me alone.
And then there s the stupid jokes. I will be talking to him and I will be like ok so what time are you picking us up, he will be like I can't I broke my arm, am like oh im sorry, he will be like jk.
Ok so I was telling my dad all of this and my dad says I should just tell him I don't want to talk to him anymore and that I am tired of being a go between and being used as there joke. That sounds like a really mean thing to do though =( and I don't want to be mean. So what should I do? Thanks!!Friend problem I need some advice!!?
Like Billy said, bring someone else along. And if you want, just break off. Tell Nate AND Staci that you don't want to be their thrid wheel, and that you're tired of being the go between. It's not so much that it's mean, but you can do it in a polite way. Like saying, ';Staci, I think Nate is nice and all, but I'm tired of being a third wheel on your dates. I'm really tired of being made fun of...'; And just go on from there. Don't just say, ';I hate that I'm yours and Nate's go between, and I'm sick and tired of being made fun of!'; Nothing like that. Just ask Staci to see if Nate will cool off, and just have her call him. And if he keeps bothering you, say ';I'm not Staci's babysitter, go find her yourself.'; If Staci gets mad, tell her how you've been feeling. If she's really your best friend, I'm sure she'd understand.Friend problem I need some advice!!?
You should bring a guy next time they invite you somewhere. Nate will back off to give you two room and you won't feel like a third wheel, problem solved!
-Billy
Shouldn't this be in the ';Family relationship'; section?
Well, try to bring a date next time. Don;t go with them everytme. And tell Nate to layoff. IDK,start ignoring him.
Really i would help but the story line is to long.
yeah, shouldn't this also be in the friend section?
鈥ell you can tell your friend that you are tired of being the 3rd wheel of their relationship and tell nate that you don't want to be the go between girl for HIS relationship.
鈥f your sick of the jokes that they always make on you when you're all hanging out tell them that you have had enough of them making fun of you.
鈥onestly, i wouldnt do what your dad suggested because it might bring up some drama with your best friend since he is her boyfriend. sadly, it is a very common thing.
hopefully i helped, if only a little bit.
contact me if you wanna chat more....mac193@yahoo.com
Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
So I asked this girl out. She was so excited, told me she was so happy i asked her and that it meant a lot to her. Made her feel special.
Then the day of the date rolled around and she completely played me first by keeping my hopes up allllll the way till the last minute and then ignoring me. I sent 2 texts and called her 3 times (The last two times I just called to leave a voicemail, but kept getting disconnected, so I had to call again). I told her that I didn't like what she did and that she should explain to me why. We do know each other for a while now and things have changed a lot between us for the better and she had been leaving me hints all over the place that she wanted me.
She got issues, and for some unknown reasons it just keeps reminding me of myself, like I got similar issues, and I know when something like this happens, im usually pretty scared and stuff.
So its today now and still no response. I don't want to be stuck on this, but I feel that if I don't END it, I will keep trying to figure WHY she did this, and WHY she won't talk to me. I mean we became pretty damn close, its not like im some regular dude that just came out of nowhere, we built up trust between each other since we both have severe trust issues and stuff.
Ok so now let me tell you this. When we first met and when neither of us were interested in each other i brought up the topic of love and she told me about the one guy she truly fell in love with.
She told me how she was the biggest ***** to him in the world. She said she didn't want to give him a chance because she didn't trust him. She ignored him, she flipped out on him, acted really bitchy with him. She said that he was sooo annoying that after all the persistence she fell in love with him and gave him a chance.
My question is, should I be persistent or should I keep quiet.
The way I see it is that I got nothing to loose really, im on break from college and just sitting around.
If nothing happens for a week ill move on, but i need advice, should i be persistent but not too annoying?Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
Hey, mate. Been there, seen that.
The key is, I think, is to give her the opposite love story. She wants you to be like this guy, but didn't they break up? So you don't want to be that guy.
What I did was to cut off communicate with her. Totally. Even blocked her messages until she talked with me directly.
I didn't do anything for 5 weeks. Then one night when it was a storm, I heard my roomate let someone in. Next thing, I feel a touch at my leg in the dark. Then I hear, ';I was scared of the thunder and I needed to talk to you.'; No joke.
Stayed with her for 2 years till I had to move on. If I were older I would have married her. She was beautiful and was always getting her way with stuff like your girl friend is doing with the guys. By not getting her way, I really got her attention. But it was a long hard 5 weeks.
Anyways just a thought. At least then you wouldn't have to put up with the annoy stuff she hopes to get out of you. And then what if she leads you on?
Give her the opposite of what she thinks you will do. Especially if you think, she likes you.Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
Cancel her.
If they want to play games, they aren't worth the headache.
yer the one who knows her, what do you think?
And why aren't you mad?
theres better fishes in the sea...now..go fish
Then the day of the date rolled around and she completely played me first by keeping my hopes up allllll the way till the last minute and then ignoring me. I sent 2 texts and called her 3 times (The last two times I just called to leave a voicemail, but kept getting disconnected, so I had to call again). I told her that I didn't like what she did and that she should explain to me why. We do know each other for a while now and things have changed a lot between us for the better and she had been leaving me hints all over the place that she wanted me.
She got issues, and for some unknown reasons it just keeps reminding me of myself, like I got similar issues, and I know when something like this happens, im usually pretty scared and stuff.
So its today now and still no response. I don't want to be stuck on this, but I feel that if I don't END it, I will keep trying to figure WHY she did this, and WHY she won't talk to me. I mean we became pretty damn close, its not like im some regular dude that just came out of nowhere, we built up trust between each other since we both have severe trust issues and stuff.
Ok so now let me tell you this. When we first met and when neither of us were interested in each other i brought up the topic of love and she told me about the one guy she truly fell in love with.
She told me how she was the biggest ***** to him in the world. She said she didn't want to give him a chance because she didn't trust him. She ignored him, she flipped out on him, acted really bitchy with him. She said that he was sooo annoying that after all the persistence she fell in love with him and gave him a chance.
My question is, should I be persistent or should I keep quiet.
The way I see it is that I got nothing to loose really, im on break from college and just sitting around.
If nothing happens for a week ill move on, but i need advice, should i be persistent but not too annoying?Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
Hey, mate. Been there, seen that.
The key is, I think, is to give her the opposite love story. She wants you to be like this guy, but didn't they break up? So you don't want to be that guy.
What I did was to cut off communicate with her. Totally. Even blocked her messages until she talked with me directly.
I didn't do anything for 5 weeks. Then one night when it was a storm, I heard my roomate let someone in. Next thing, I feel a touch at my leg in the dark. Then I hear, ';I was scared of the thunder and I needed to talk to you.'; No joke.
Stayed with her for 2 years till I had to move on. If I were older I would have married her. She was beautiful and was always getting her way with stuff like your girl friend is doing with the guys. By not getting her way, I really got her attention. But it was a long hard 5 weeks.
Anyways just a thought. At least then you wouldn't have to put up with the annoy stuff she hopes to get out of you. And then what if she leads you on?
Give her the opposite of what she thinks you will do. Especially if you think, she likes you.Girl problem, just need some advice please.?
Cancel her.
If they want to play games, they aren't worth the headache.
yer the one who knows her, what do you think?
And why aren't you mad?
theres better fishes in the sea...now..go fish
Boy problem.. need as much advice as poss.. or opinion..?
okay so iv liked this guy for over a year.
His brother thinks that he likes me.
well.. i made this guy up that was really him (danny) and said the guys name was luke. since around january he will always mention him askin who he really is, if i love him ect..
(along with other questions)
i stayed around our friends house the other night and got really drunk i was on the bed with him and i was in his arms and he said that he is going to take advantage of me because im drunk and find out who luke is.. in the past he has mentioned every boy we both know, but this time he mentioned his name, he said is his name Danny? adam..?
when he said danny i laughed and he said why did you laugh.. (cant remeber what happened after that..
and he often will get annoyed (in a jokey kind of way) if i text his brother before i text him, and if i dont turn up when were all spose to go out..
also we was all going cinema once and he said he would only go if i went, but there was a group of us going..
im very confused and have no confidance what so ever what do you think about what iv said does he like me?
any tips, too find out without actually asking?
thank you !Boy problem.. need as much advice as poss.. or opinion..?
He definately lyks u... But do u lyk him? If so just go for it...
His brother thinks that he likes me.
well.. i made this guy up that was really him (danny) and said the guys name was luke. since around january he will always mention him askin who he really is, if i love him ect..
(along with other questions)
i stayed around our friends house the other night and got really drunk i was on the bed with him and i was in his arms and he said that he is going to take advantage of me because im drunk and find out who luke is.. in the past he has mentioned every boy we both know, but this time he mentioned his name, he said is his name Danny? adam..?
when he said danny i laughed and he said why did you laugh.. (cant remeber what happened after that..
and he often will get annoyed (in a jokey kind of way) if i text his brother before i text him, and if i dont turn up when were all spose to go out..
also we was all going cinema once and he said he would only go if i went, but there was a group of us going..
im very confused and have no confidance what so ever what do you think about what iv said does he like me?
any tips, too find out without actually asking?
thank you !Boy problem.. need as much advice as poss.. or opinion..?
He definately lyks u... But do u lyk him? If so just go for it...
Guy problem! We kissed. Any advice helps!?
Ok well PLEASE help me out, nobody seems to have advice, sorry its kinda long be here it goes.
Ok so, me and my exremely good friends Jon, have been friends for about 2 years now. And when i first met him i really like him, and i mean really! Well anywho, he goes out with this other girl so i was just like, ugh this wont go anywhere, so i gave up. But latelt (for the past 4 months or so) him and his girlfriend have bee having some serious issues. Breaking up and then getting back together etc. Well, he went over to her house because he wanted her back, but she said she just wanted a break, (And i live right by this girl right?) So he calls me and is like, he want to talk to me? I kinda need it. So im walking around with him in our neighborhood and then we find these hills behind our house and we just sit there and talk for a litelt bit. And then I noticed that hes acting all shy and keeps avoiding looking at me straight in the eye. Which is not him. So i asked him, ';Is there i reason you keep avoiding my face?'; and he said, because, i cant control myself. And of course, i am confused. And im like What? And he says, I cant control my feelings, i really like you, and i want to kiss you. So at first im kinda in shock (because i dont like him at this point) and its quiet and the music on his phone is playing and all of the sudden i just leaned over and kissed him. And then we kinda just started making out and...yeah. And then im like Wow, ok what happens next. I mean we cant go out, his GF would flip, and were great friends and we dont want to ruin it. But at the same time, neither of use regret it and we both like eachother somewhat (I dont know how to explain about how we feel about eachother) and hes not sure what will happen and neither am I.
PLEASE PLEASE help me :(
Sorry it was so long.Guy problem! We kissed. Any advice helps!?
Well this is tough because I don't know him personally, or you, or what he's probably thinking. There's 2 possibilites- 1 is that he's in need of a rebound and he's simply using you as his rebound girl because he felt like he'd be able to kiss you and get the comfort that he needed. The other possibility, is that he really does like you and has strong feelings for you. As a very close friend, you get to know someone really well and you grow attracted to them in many ways. It keeps growing as you spend more time with the person. Maybe he realizes now that you're there for him all along even through all his issues with his gf, and he sees just how reliable and great of a girl you are. Maybe he does want to go further with it with you, but doesn't know how to get that by his gf (or ex, whatever she is lol). The only way to find out is just to say (if you do indeed have feelings for him) that you do have feelings for him. If he does too, he'll respond well since he knows now that he safely has you and you guys are good to go. He could really like you, but he's just worried that you don't like him back as much as he likes you, and he doesn't want to lose both his gf AND you in the process, you know?
Hope that helped! And thanks for answering mine btwGuy problem! We kissed. Any advice helps!?
if hes a good friend u will get ur chance if not then move on.
if its long who cares at least ur questions getting anserd right?
His gf took a break so y'all were aloud to kiss and it's her fault fer him kissin ya
talk about it and follow how u feel
Ok so, me and my exremely good friends Jon, have been friends for about 2 years now. And when i first met him i really like him, and i mean really! Well anywho, he goes out with this other girl so i was just like, ugh this wont go anywhere, so i gave up. But latelt (for the past 4 months or so) him and his girlfriend have bee having some serious issues. Breaking up and then getting back together etc. Well, he went over to her house because he wanted her back, but she said she just wanted a break, (And i live right by this girl right?) So he calls me and is like, he want to talk to me? I kinda need it. So im walking around with him in our neighborhood and then we find these hills behind our house and we just sit there and talk for a litelt bit. And then I noticed that hes acting all shy and keeps avoiding looking at me straight in the eye. Which is not him. So i asked him, ';Is there i reason you keep avoiding my face?'; and he said, because, i cant control myself. And of course, i am confused. And im like What? And he says, I cant control my feelings, i really like you, and i want to kiss you. So at first im kinda in shock (because i dont like him at this point) and its quiet and the music on his phone is playing and all of the sudden i just leaned over and kissed him. And then we kinda just started making out and...yeah. And then im like Wow, ok what happens next. I mean we cant go out, his GF would flip, and were great friends and we dont want to ruin it. But at the same time, neither of use regret it and we both like eachother somewhat (I dont know how to explain about how we feel about eachother) and hes not sure what will happen and neither am I.
PLEASE PLEASE help me :(
Sorry it was so long.Guy problem! We kissed. Any advice helps!?
Well this is tough because I don't know him personally, or you, or what he's probably thinking. There's 2 possibilites- 1 is that he's in need of a rebound and he's simply using you as his rebound girl because he felt like he'd be able to kiss you and get the comfort that he needed. The other possibility, is that he really does like you and has strong feelings for you. As a very close friend, you get to know someone really well and you grow attracted to them in many ways. It keeps growing as you spend more time with the person. Maybe he realizes now that you're there for him all along even through all his issues with his gf, and he sees just how reliable and great of a girl you are. Maybe he does want to go further with it with you, but doesn't know how to get that by his gf (or ex, whatever she is lol). The only way to find out is just to say (if you do indeed have feelings for him) that you do have feelings for him. If he does too, he'll respond well since he knows now that he safely has you and you guys are good to go. He could really like you, but he's just worried that you don't like him back as much as he likes you, and he doesn't want to lose both his gf AND you in the process, you know?
Hope that helped! And thanks for answering mine btwGuy problem! We kissed. Any advice helps!?
if hes a good friend u will get ur chance if not then move on.
if its long who cares at least ur questions getting anserd right?
His gf took a break so y'all were aloud to kiss and it's her fault fer him kissin ya
talk about it and follow how u feel
Girl problem.. I really need advice!!?
I need all the advice i can get, please!! 10 easy points, even if the answers are messed up, i want someone out there reading :(
Girl i'm not officially with.. but likes me?
Alright here's the deal. I met someone like a month ago or so. Her and I started talking, exchanged numbers, went out.
We liked eachother, we kissed for like 45 minutes in my car, held hands, talked about our past relationships..
She says i am a really great guy, im nice and all of that.
The next day she had a change of heart or something, cuz she told me her and i are just friends (i didnt think we were more. but it just seemed like she wanted to be sure of that i guess?)
Anyways, we havn't kissed or held hands since, and that was like 2 weeks ago since we last did all that stuff..
She told me she wanted to develop a friendship between us first. I told her that was fine.. Her reason was because she just got out of a relationship. As far as i'm concerned that guy was an idiot to her, a jerk..
Well there are other guys shes speaking to, i just dont like being just another guy.. I like her alot, but i just don't know what to do?
Help? We've had some serious talks about stuff. I got angry with her one time because she was acting strange with me, so i basically threw things in her face and she started crying. Saying that she cares about me, but why doesn't she care for me as much to be WITH me.
I think it's just utter bullshiit.
Forgot to mention she gets angry when i don't open the door for her, or when i don't pay for her when we go out. So i've been doing all that, but it's making me wonder why? What's the point? Friends don't do that, do they?
I used to take her to work, and pick her up.. We would see eachother all the time. We fought like we were in a relationship.. But it's beginning to be sickening... I'm into her, but im beginning to back off because i don't wanna be just an option...Girl problem.. I really need advice!!?
you have to realize if she really cares...
just don't be in sight for some time... so you can make sure if she really needs you..
you say you pick her up to work, and gets angry when you don't act as a gentleman...
if you are just friends u don't have to pay her and open the door for her...
so stop doing these stuff.. and act like you don't know that she will get angry... act so cool
when you do all this... think about her responsesGirl problem.. I really need advice!!?
give her an ultimatum , either she gets with you or you give up on her!
right now you're wrapped around her finger and she controls you all of the time.
dont let her do that!
oh and start talking to other girls... she'll get sick jealous.
Damn you, monkey lover!
Sounds like she's either playing you, or doesn't know her own mind. Move on.
i really don't know.. she sounds confusing
she may be using you
i think you should just try and talk about it with her
like be straight up and firm
i wanna be more than just friends bcuz i really like you
thats it see of it works
she must know already that you like her bcuz you kissed lol
so try it
okay here is the truth im just like the girl your talking about.. but i dont make guys pay for my stuff she only wants to be friends with you because she wants to keep on talking to other guys thats pretty obviuos... and she tells you she cares about you because she knows if she does that you will stick around and be there.. us girls like this type.. sorry if im steriotyping we fear being alone.. so we love to talk to as many guys as we can.. the crying is difficult to explain because we do get involved with you.. obviously we cry cuz we fear you leaving.. email me and we can talk more.. =o]
You first want to ask yourself if she's worth the hassle. It almost seems like you two are jumping the gun just a bit and rushed into something you weren't ready for.
You expect things from her and she's got some serious baggage. There's no real way that you can get that to work unless you get marriage counseling and I doubt that you two are. You should consider being ONLY be friends right now until you two can learn to sort out your problems in a rational manner than just blowing up in each others faces. The best way to do that is to learn to communicate with each other. That's a virtue that many couples have lost nowadays and the results have led to catastrophic ends. Back to what I originally said, is she worth the time and effort you're willing to put into it ?acne cream
Girl i'm not officially with.. but likes me?
Alright here's the deal. I met someone like a month ago or so. Her and I started talking, exchanged numbers, went out.
We liked eachother, we kissed for like 45 minutes in my car, held hands, talked about our past relationships..
She says i am a really great guy, im nice and all of that.
The next day she had a change of heart or something, cuz she told me her and i are just friends (i didnt think we were more. but it just seemed like she wanted to be sure of that i guess?)
Anyways, we havn't kissed or held hands since, and that was like 2 weeks ago since we last did all that stuff..
She told me she wanted to develop a friendship between us first. I told her that was fine.. Her reason was because she just got out of a relationship. As far as i'm concerned that guy was an idiot to her, a jerk..
Well there are other guys shes speaking to, i just dont like being just another guy.. I like her alot, but i just don't know what to do?
Help? We've had some serious talks about stuff. I got angry with her one time because she was acting strange with me, so i basically threw things in her face and she started crying. Saying that she cares about me, but why doesn't she care for me as much to be WITH me.
I think it's just utter bullshiit.
Forgot to mention she gets angry when i don't open the door for her, or when i don't pay for her when we go out. So i've been doing all that, but it's making me wonder why? What's the point? Friends don't do that, do they?
I used to take her to work, and pick her up.. We would see eachother all the time. We fought like we were in a relationship.. But it's beginning to be sickening... I'm into her, but im beginning to back off because i don't wanna be just an option...Girl problem.. I really need advice!!?
you have to realize if she really cares...
just don't be in sight for some time... so you can make sure if she really needs you..
you say you pick her up to work, and gets angry when you don't act as a gentleman...
if you are just friends u don't have to pay her and open the door for her...
so stop doing these stuff.. and act like you don't know that she will get angry... act so cool
when you do all this... think about her responsesGirl problem.. I really need advice!!?
give her an ultimatum , either she gets with you or you give up on her!
right now you're wrapped around her finger and she controls you all of the time.
dont let her do that!
oh and start talking to other girls... she'll get sick jealous.
Damn you, monkey lover!
Sounds like she's either playing you, or doesn't know her own mind. Move on.
i really don't know.. she sounds confusing
she may be using you
i think you should just try and talk about it with her
like be straight up and firm
i wanna be more than just friends bcuz i really like you
thats it see of it works
she must know already that you like her bcuz you kissed lol
so try it
okay here is the truth im just like the girl your talking about.. but i dont make guys pay for my stuff she only wants to be friends with you because she wants to keep on talking to other guys thats pretty obviuos... and she tells you she cares about you because she knows if she does that you will stick around and be there.. us girls like this type.. sorry if im steriotyping we fear being alone.. so we love to talk to as many guys as we can.. the crying is difficult to explain because we do get involved with you.. obviously we cry cuz we fear you leaving.. email me and we can talk more.. =o]
You first want to ask yourself if she's worth the hassle. It almost seems like you two are jumping the gun just a bit and rushed into something you weren't ready for.
You expect things from her and she's got some serious baggage. There's no real way that you can get that to work unless you get marriage counseling and I doubt that you two are. You should consider being ONLY be friends right now until you two can learn to sort out your problems in a rational manner than just blowing up in each others faces. The best way to do that is to learn to communicate with each other. That's a virtue that many couples have lost nowadays and the results have led to catastrophic ends. Back to what I originally said, is she worth the time and effort you're willing to put into it ?
HUGE Problem! click here! NEED advice! experts..???
so,theres this boy i know. his names Dylan. well, i have a hugeee crush on him. were really good friends. like i talk to him on the phone at least everyother day. i really want to go out with him. but theres a problem. actually, theres many but i'll just inform you on the basics. he's kind of...a player. like he go's out with girls all the time and breaks up with them...but he has been in a couple long term relationships...for over 4 months. so i mean, he could be a good boyfriend i guess...so anyway, im not sure if he likes me. just because we talk all the time doesnt really mean anything. so im not sure if he would go out with me, or if we're too close. and i dont want to tell him i like him because if he doesnt like me back, our friendship might be ruined. in any other situation if the guy doesnt ask me out first, i usually tell him how i feel. but i cant with him.usually i'm like an expert on this stuff but now im confused.
i know this is a lot...but PLEASE HELP!!! WHAT DO I DO?HUGE Problem! click here! NEED advice! experts..???
drop him hints
%26amp; talk to him about who he likes.
i know this is a lot...but PLEASE HELP!!! WHAT DO I DO?HUGE Problem! click here! NEED advice! experts..???
drop him hints
%26amp; talk to him about who he likes.
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