Problem with Family...Any Advice is appreciated?

I am 21 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. He makes me so happy and he makes me feel really good about myself and confident. He is a really good influence on me and makes me want to do well in life and be all that i can be. The only problem is my Mum. She keeps stirring up trouble between us and it has caused so many arguments in our relationship that we have broken up a couple of times because of it. It's only recently when me and my boyfriend have talked things through, that we realise where it is coming from. She will ***** about my boyfriend behind his back to me to cause arguments. I also want to marry him and have a baby with him, and she keeps lecturing me about how i should be free and single and living my life etc.She has really effed my head up about things with him in the past. She tries to make him out to be a bad person. I do love my mum, and sometimes she can be such a wonderful person, but the past few years, she has turned into somebody who has lost all sense of fun and happiness in all aspects of her life, and this has such a negative effect on me. Any advice anyone could give would be great. Thanks!Problem with Family...Any Advice is appreciated?
I think she's probably jealous because you're growing up and building a life without her. I have no doubt that she loves you and only wants the best for you so there probably a part of her that thinks she's protecting you too. It's every mother's worst nightmare when their kids start to fly the nest and there's probably a bit of that involved too. Also she's probably worried that you won't need her as much now that you're starting to build your own life. I would talk to her honestly about how you're feeling and reassure her that you'll still need her but remind her that you are a grown woman and you need to make your own mistakes in order to learn from them,it's your life. I hope this has helped a bit. Good luck and best wishes for the future xProblem with Family...Any Advice is appreciated?
your Mom feels like she is losing you to your boyfriend, talk to her and explain that you will always be her daughter and will still be her friend, but it is time for you to grow up and make your own choices, even if he is wrong for you like your mom thinks you will have to find that out for yourself! tell her these things and see if they help if not you may have to distance yourself from Mom for a while, good luck
well i think you should talk to you mom about it. Try to open up to her what you really feel about the whole situation and maybe you'll find out the reason why she is doing this things.
More than likely your mom is doing one of two things, First she's just trying to protect you or second trying you stop you from making the same mistake she made. Talk things out like adults. Don't yell and scream. Talk to her not at her. Be respectful of her place as a mother and the knowledge she has. I seriously don't think she is jealous of you. Kids don't come with a book of instructions and your all different. Parents aren't perfect neither are our kids. If you and your BF are happy that's a wonderful thing. You mention your BF past, are you OK with it? At 21 I would recommend taking your time with marriage and a baby. Get your education a good job and enjoy being young. You don't have to be free and run buck wild. Stay with your BF. Just don't rush into anything. Having good Communication with a parent is a good thing. If you are a responsible young woman and make good choices point that out to your mom. Tell her thank you because she instilled that in you. Ask her to trust in you and your judgment abilities.If she won't stop the lecturing tell her your personal life is not open to discussion. Always keep in mind that she loves you and doesn't want to see you get hurt.
Good, you seems to have a rational approach that is why you want to deliberate on the issue. Now have some points to help decide take your decision?


You are only 21yrs considering an average age +75 you may assess your experience of life.


The life span you may segregate in different phases you may consider you have arrived in third phase after child and adolescence.


Even in married life different stages gives you varied experiences and you slowly learn real life.


You said your mom is sometimes a wonderful person, yes for that moment she is not engrossed with worry.


The moment she feels her responsibility as a mother towards you she becomes frustrated and her personality looses balance.


You are so possessive of your relationship in only 3 1/2 yrs just think about your mother who has carried you in her womb and have been giving all the best care and love to you.


SHE IS RIGHTLY POSSESSIVE ABOUT YOU, BECAUSE YOU HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO IMPRESS UPON HER YOUR MATURITY.


Physical attraction or may be called a love should have necessary and inherent potential to prove your point is right, but remember with love and agreeing only, no adamant.behavior.


Make her agree or both of you wait for right time to come.


I am sure if you both are dedicated she will accede
ask your mom as why is she reacting like this.be cool headed when doing so.try to know her points first,then keep yours.you could judge and she too that what's more important your boy friend in or out of your life.





don't be biased about your boy friend when listening to her and have pre-assumption that your mum doesn't like him.





being your mom she won't like to see you unhappy any day.so let her see your points too dear.





two of you talking is the way out I see.