Alright one hel# of a problem here. need some advice?

Background: two divorcees with children living 600 miles apart. Found each other on a support group for people who were married to and abused by people with major personality disorders. talk everyday, every night for hours. exchanged pictures and are very attracted to each other. Have the same values, morals, and outlook on life. Get along just great. Don't really feel the need to be close because we feel the other is with them everyday. Just realized that both of us are falling in love with each other and admitted it to each other but there are a ton of obstacles. Now what?Alright one hel# of a problem here. need some advice?
Now you best start writing lists. List the problems and obstacles. Then start talking about solutions. If you are able to work those out you two may just have to learn how to be happy with eachother. Good Luck.Alright one hel# of a problem here. need some advice?
If life were without obstacles, no matter what they are or in what situation, yahoo answers would not exist. The two of you WILL find a way. Have faith and know that some day you guys will have what you are wanting.
Make arrangements 2 meet in person and go from there. Good luck.
if the obstacles seem too large then evidently the relationship is not for you. True Love makes everything seem easy and possible.
That's up to you.
Dear Survivor,





First, don't be in a rush. You weren't when you started talking with this other person and there is no reason to be in one now. Time, in this case, is not wasting. Keep FIRMLY in mind that people on the net can project what they want to and downplay what they want. Therefore, what you are dealing with here is a PERCEPTION of like values, morals, goals and experiences. Both of you continue to carefully explore your new relationship from each end.





Second, I recommend that you read one anothers divorce papers. Sometimes, this is a REAL eye opener. If one or the other of you is unwilling to share, a red flag should go up. You both need to know the good with the bad.





Third, when you first meet, bring the kids along. You may as well know from the first if the children will be willing to try this new life with you. There are tons of things to work out when kids are involved, right down to how you will feel when someone else disciplines your child and how they will feel about it, too. There is NOTHING too small to explore in this area.





Fourth, talk with your spiritual advisors. Bring them in early and be ready to answer some hard questions from both of them. Since your previous marriages failed (no matter who was to blame), you must be ultra aware of potential ';gator holes.'; You don't want to lose again and there are more than just two people involved in this new venture. All must be able to cope with what is to come. Having God on your side from the first is a very wise move.





Fifth, GOOD LUCK, HON!! Aren't you glad that you are not so jaded that you are not willing to take another chance on love? I hope you are ALL winners!!
This is tricky. Kind of depends on whether or not you have kids. If you have kids and depending on the custody situation and many other factors, it may not be in their best interests to move.





I would say the first step would be to spend a little time together. You should meet for a long weekend or more and see how things go. If things work out and you see each other more and more and if there are not obstacles to moving, then you should be closer to each other and try to make a life of it.
you would know better than anyone on yahoo answers. just look into your heart and decide if yall can face the obstacles and go for it. If not, just be good friends. Everybody needs a good friend they can talk to and rely on.
How about a long weekend at a hotel with a theme park? You can finally meet, the kids can play, if things don't work out, nothing lost.
Think it out...do what needs to be done..and get together.
Google ';co-dependancy'; you'll find your answer.
This is just sick-you need help and not from some kind of concentration camp setting.
Now what? now you need to go for IT!!!! don't hold yourself back, dang it! go go go. get off the dang computer and go for it!
Sort thru the obstacles one at a time, if it is meant to be, then dont be afraid to take a chance. ask yourself if you had 1 year to live, what would you want to do? Live without regrets..


:)
That's hard to tell without knowing the obstacles... You could send them to me and I'll reply. Otherwise, there's not that much I could say.
life is a journey... you have to go where is takes you... Love is strange.. take is slow and all the best :)
arrange to meet
Well, first off if you feel really serious you should meet in person w/o the kids and see if you have any chemistry or if you are just destined to be really good friends. In person you discover all the little nuances that make up a person. If you meet and it is love than start a long distance relationship and discuss the options of careers and moving. Tell your kids about this person and have them along the time to see how they get a long. Ex's are usually a problem anyway you look at it, so don't worry too much about them. Basically you need to meet and see how you truly react to each other and then make sure that the children will be able to handle it.
life is full of obstacles, that is why we have love and passion for each other to overcome these obstacles1





good luck!
Depends on what the ';obstacles'; are and if either or both of you are willing to work on them.


My advice = meet up in person and see if everything still goes great!


Best of Luck!
have you meet in person yet and if not maybe you should and when you do that then you will know what to do
Run don't Walk away.. two people who were in abusive relationships with other people should never be together.. Like two alcoholic's sooner or later one will fall off the wagon...
I'd move out and start the divorce proceedings. During that time you could work on a relationship with the other person you met online. The fact that you guys are 600 miles away, does complicate things... But if things are meant to be, then you'll find a way.