Boyfriend has anger problem when too drunk, advice please?

Hi. Im in a relationship with a 24-yr old guy and have been with him for almost 4 months. He seemed wonderful and healthy and normal at first, and we have great chemistry and a great relationship, except for this one thing-. I recently I uncovered something that鈥檚 having me worried鈥攚henever he gets very drunk, he becomes very loud, obnoxious and often violent-seeming鈥攙ery out of character from his usual relaxed and easygoing self.When hes in that state of mind he takes everything really personally and acts very defensive, and if I (or his friends etc.)say the wrong thing he鈥檒l cause a huge scene, threatens people, he also gets extremely possessive and controlling in that state, threatening to fight guys who look at me, etc. And the worst is that he鈥檚 completely uncontrollable-no matter what I say to him to try to help the situation he won鈥檛 listen, often making an even bigger scene. (continued below)Boyfriend has anger problem when too drunk, advice please?
Yes it will be good if ,,,,,you can get him to read that self help book. It would also help if you can get him to AA meeting. After that leave the scene go somewhere where you cannot be found and let him go through the healing process. Find yourself a new life and a new BFBoyfriend has anger problem when too drunk, advice please?
get out of the relationship. its not your responsability to change him. you deserve someone who is emotionally healthy and will treat you with respect.
Yes..he can change and Yes he can get help!! If you really care for this guy? Then give it time to work. Maybe it's his way of asking for help. Let him know that you are there for him!
1. AA


or


2. Run, run fast..........
It won't get better with you and his friends continuing to take him out to get hammered. That's like handing Dick Cheney a shotgun in a close space.
You can't fix this guy and he will cause you grief.
I don't know about you but ask yourself this question. Why do you think that is what you deserve. I mean really, is that what you want??? I am a recovering alcoholic and I hate to tell you but he sounds like me when I was drinking. I have been sober many years. If you stay with him you will enable him and anyone that does will keep him from hitting bottom. If you want a life filled with hellish nights and mean behavior then go with that. I have two daughters, and I would tell them the same thing I just told you. Please don't stay in that situation. You are worthy and God wants more for you. Please hear me. Bless you.
you've only been together for 4 months i say leave him before it gets worse...he can only be helped if he lets some1 too and by the way he is sounding there is no hope anytime soon!
Oh my goodness your story is full of red flags. You could change the names in the story and it could be the story of any abused woman. They all start out wonderful and when something bad happens they all swear they will change or get help. And many do change for a while but each time the problems come back they get more severe. You see when you stand by him, he starts believing he can do anything to you and you will always forgive him. You forgiving him is enabling him to continue on this pattern. I say let him go fix his problem and call you when he is done. If at that time you still want to be together then great. If not then it wasn't meant to be anyway. Please don't think that you can save or change him. He needs to do that on his own before he commits to any relationship. I suggest you get out now while you don't have that much time invested. Good luck!
Maybe some counselling with someone who might help him to get rid of the rage that is deep down inside his being. He seems as though he feels as though he has to prove himself worthy to everyone and when he gets drunk he resents that fact and takes it out on anyone who gets in his way. Next time he goes into one of these rages, make arrangements with some of his friends to get him home, then quietly when you get the chance, sneak out and go home yourself. If he attacks you over this when he is sober, tell him you will continue to act this way, until he does something to help himself to get over his aggression.
Alcohol suppresses your cerebral cortex and limbic system as well as the other major parts of the brain. The cerebral cortex processes your thoughts, information on senses and muscle movement. Leaving you with poor judgment, stumbling and rambling. Limbic system is the emotional side. And alcohol can result in over dramatic stages of emotion, such as rage. In your boyfriends case it's causing him to become more violent, which is just going to be a side effect from going over board on drinking. My suggestion is keep him off the alcohol, or if he has enough self control to limit the amount he takes in. Wish you the best of luck, hope everything works out.
leave him
The only way he will be able to help the situation is if he stops drinking. If he can't and won't, you need to leave him as it is only a matter of time before he does cross the line and physically assaults you. Get him to stop drinking, the ONLY thing you can do if he refuses is to leave him, as a relationship with someone like that who won't do anything to help himself will never work.