I have a problem and I need advice?

I'm 22 years old. I have no job and still live with my parents. I have tried to get a job yet nothing turns up in my favor. Strong possibility it's because I'm in debt and also because I don't try as hard and often as I should to look for employment.





My mom constantly tells me to get a job and help out with bills and stuff. I don't have a problem with that and I don't feel that I'm a lazy person. Well, I'll admit that I may be lazy when it comes to actually looking for a job but around the house I clean a lot and take care of the pets. So it's not like I do absolutely nothing to help out while I live off of my parents for free.





Currently, I'm just so tired of looking for a job. What's the point anymore? I want to be independent but right now that's not happening. I've had 4 jobs before so I know what it's like to work hard. I've been to college and held a part time job at the same time which was the toughest thing to me I've ever done. No sleep barely and barely ever ate anything. Almost got in a car accident because I was driving while so sleepy. But I had to go to work...even if it killed me. Lol.





Anyway, I'm having a difficult time. Right now, I'm happy and content in my life. Could I be doing better? Of course but I'm not and I'm tired of thriving on the negative. I hear get a job from my mom, dad and brother. And my brother is 17 years old and has not even had his first job yet. My mom forced me to get a job when I was 16.





I definitely have issues with my brother getting away with not being scolded at for not having a job but I do. But I'm 22 and that is understandable but I feel like my parents focus all their attention on me. I've always had negative feelings towards my brother when we were younger. He got away with not doing anything to help around the house but I never did. It frustrates me and I been feeling that I want to give up. I don't care anymore, about a job, about being independent, about what anyone thinks of me.





But I would like advice on how to motivate myself to become independent. I am planning to go back to school. So hopefully this opportunity will help me and my dilemma. But no matter how hard I try what if I still can't find a job? I wonder would my parents get to the point of kicking me out if I don't eventually find a job?





My mom always tells me that it is important for a young lady to be independent and I agree with her. But it's just not happening for me and I'm sad because my parents think of me as lazy. I want to do all the right things and make them happy and proud of me but I easily get so discouraged my feelings hurt.





So what's a girl like me to do?I have a problem and I need advice?
Well 1st don't give up as easy as it sounds to be. Trust that God will not allow you to carry more than you are able no matter how hard it feels to breathe.....all you hAVE TO DO IS ASK AND HE WILL LIFT THE WEIGHT AND BROADEN YOUR VISION AS YOU SEE IT TOMORROW %26amp; THEN NEXT DAY AND THE NEXT....take deep breaths when mom is on you and baby steps (IMPORTANT) only take on one task at a time forget that you have 25 things to do in one day....just prioritize your list and start then check off as you go down the list. This helped me when I was unemployed for a little over three years. I only dwelled on the negative cuz I couldn't see past the obvious or the words of others around me. But once I was given this simple way of taking on the next day advice I almost couldn't believe how small of a chnage that was needed to get back on track with motivation and inspiration! If you think Big (-negative get a big headache or Big positives get a Big sense of self worth beynd any measure or salary earned) One step at a time, one day at a time, one way at a time and believe me it will get easier. We (adults now) are only going to make our futures much harder by not working hard now to have the ability to Save for the security of our future as an Independent woman, man, senior b/c the less work we put towards our own lives will be 3x's as ard when we are our parents and grandparents age. Seriously....I have had the advantage of seeing a wide range of poor to moderate to wealthy to bancrupt to homeless to who knows but you'll have a much better chance of an emotionally stable life if you are able to provide for yourself in the event that you don't have a home to run to or a relatives shoulder to lean even a friend that is able to help in the vent of a disaster. I just flood my mind with focus on what tsk I accomplished during a day (just the one thought if only one) instead of burdening my mind, heart, %26amp; soul with the multiple things undone to the point of exhaustion and near giving up. Once you cross the line of feeling un motivated sometimes to I can't remember when I didn't want ot give up on life all of the time it is extremely hard to get back on track again with the simple things as taking a shower or leaving the house and begin to self-deteriorate.I have a problem and I need advice?
Definetly, you are not lazy but to get education is very good idea, thinks will foll into place regarding your independence.
'; I don't try as hard as I should'; you said it and that is the answer.





One thing about being home is that you tend to act more child like.





Listen to yourself, you know what you're talking about.
it sounds like you lack direction in your life. What are you interested in? What do you want to do with your life? you're still young but you're at the age where you should begin laying the foundation for a career. I think it's a great idea for you to go back to college; try to start heading towards a career, eventually you will find a job if you remain determined to do so.


And always try to have fun with whatever you're doing, that will make your life always seem better.


Best of luck