Friday, April 30, 2010

I have a problem and need some advice on what too do please?

I have suspected for a while that my husband was having an affair. I have forgiven a previous one and thought he would stop. This weekend I looked at his text messages (bad I know) and there was one on there from 3 months ago (why hasn't he deleted it?). He had sent one saying ';I still really love you baby';. I sent her the same text again from his phone to see if there was a reply. She texted back saying (this shocked me) ';You promised to leave me alone. If you don't I will get a restraining order';. I was speechless - is he stalking someone? What do I do?I have a problem and need some advice on what too do please?
She has wised up to the fact that he wants his cake and to eat it. Either that or she found out your husband was married and told him to leave her alone. She probably doesnt want to be involved with a married man and now he is harassing her.





What you should do is get the locks changed by the time he comes home.





You could try contacting the woman to find out what has happened.I have a problem and need some advice on what too do please?
Sweetheart he is never going to stop, my advice to you is get out while you can, the longer this goes on the worse it will get and do you really want to spend the rest of your life looking over your shoulder waiting for this to happen again, and believe me it will. There are lots of men out there that would treat you a whole lot better than this, you do not deserve this, no one does. Good luck to you I hope you sort this soon.
if this was me i would definately leave him.


I truley believe relationships are based on trust and by him cheating on you this is broken. You are always gonna be thinking is he doing something behind my back and no matter how much you love him it will make you miserable.


Take a step back and think if this was happening to your best friend, sister, mother or someone equally as close what would your advice be to them?
You are accusing your husband for that he broke up with that woman. A 3 month old message is not a reason to be upset today. Yes, maybe it was hard to break up. Your husband is a human being, like you. And now YOU are revitalizing that relationship. And YES: spying on your husband's phone IS the same bad as your husband's behavior WAS. Do you see? IS and WAS.
Good grief woman, why did you forgive him in the first place? If he is able to cheat he just doesn't love you, and even if he didn't love you he should have enough respect not to do it. What is going on between him and this woman is not important, he's a loser and anyone, including you, can do better
I think you know what you have to do. Separate and see if he cleans up his act. He might want to be free or he might get a kick out of cheating. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. And no I don't think it was wrong of you to read text messages. He has not earned your trust. Trust is a privilege, not a right.
What exactly did you write in the text yo sent her? Why did you even pretend to be your husband? If your hubby has cheated before and you have stayed with him, do you think any of us will suggest to you to ';stay with him or dump him'; ?





My advice to you is: dump him - period. He has obviously no respect for you and is stupid enough to get caught while cheating on you !
WOW he is stalking someone!





Contact a lawyer and start the divorce proceedings! Then break his phone into tiny little pieces.





If he has done it before, he is going to do it again
my advice to you is leave him as quickly as possible .trust in the lord that you can find an honest man .because they are out there.i hope the best for you.
the good news: Your husband's affair is really over......


the bad news: Your husband is a psycho stalker......





Confront him with this evidence......
Leave the message on the screen and watch for his reactions when he reads it , then pounce .
your husband is trying his luck again with the ex, and he intends to be disloyal to you...
visit a doctor
That is awful. Maybe ask him about it.
consult ur lawyer
I would dump him
Eeek. He's a male Glenn Close. Run!
Not only is he a cheater, but a damn stupid one ! If I was you, I would dump him and gain back my self confidence.
Become a spy. Find out her name. Then buy a prepaid cell phone. You can get one at radio shack virgin mobil. Once you have the phone, text him a message saying you are her, and that you have lost your phone, and this is your new one. On his phone, block her number from incoming calls and text. Use the new phone, apologize for being so ';weird lately';. Start texting each other. If he buys it, there is all kinds of info you can get out of him if you are smart about it. set up a date to meet some place. Then show up and bust his balls. If you want to bug his computer so you can see everything he does on it, go to webwatcher.com You will see everything, passwords, e-mails, web sites, everything he does and looks at. Good luck.
He will never stop cheating . You made the mistake in forgiving him once. I have just discovered my long term partner has been having a 6 month affair with - FROM FACEBOOK. She is fully aware of my existence and has told me she doesn't care as she is ';having fun';.


We were planning to have a baby and I find messages on her wall from MY bloke saying how he misses her and how many days it is till he sees her next.





HE WILL NEVER STOP CHEATING,. I forgave my one too, once..... and if the woman your husband is pestering wasn't in the picture, someone else soon would be.





END YOUR DOOMED MARRIAGE. Life is too short and you are worth more.





Get rid of him. He is stealing your life, time and energy. Don't let him.

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